Regarding the question of whether to spend a lot of money chasing girls, I believe that many boys will think that the answer is yes. Indeed, money must be spent, but in fact, if you can spend your money wisely, you can do it without spending a lot of money. Enhance your relationship.
The reason why many boys think that chasing girls must spend a lot of money is because they don’t want to admit that we have nothing but He knows nothing about the pursuit of spending money for her. Even if I spend money, I don’t know how to spend it to achieve better results.
Although men are responsible for making money and supporting the family, women are responsible for looking beautiful. But not every man is a multimillionaire. It is not easy for one person to support all the expenses of a family. It's normal to have no money. As long as you're not too lazy to eat, it's not everyone's fault.
If you have enough money, you are given three choices: to have enough food, to buy an apartment, or to travel. Which one do you want to choose the most?
Most people will definitely choose to buy without hesitation. Suite, followed by travel.
Because the environment has changed, according to the classification of sociologists, these three options happen to be the core needs of the three stages of human society.
For example, before the reform and opening up, the core need was to have enough food; after the environment improved, people began to want to own assets; and finally, to experience high-quality life.
Most of us are currently in the first to second stages. It is definitely no problem to have enough to eat, but when it comes to assets, it is already very good to have no money. Interestingly, there is a contradiction between increasing demand and our actual assets.
Therefore, this kind of insecurity brought to us by material lack will be reflected in the worry that we cannot meet the needs of the other person, resulting in being single for a long time.
The most typical example is that parents and elders will say: "You must get married when you reach a certain age, otherwise you will not even get a wife." In fact, marriage requires a house, betrothal gifts, banquets, and daily life. You have to wait. After you have a child, you still have to consider the money for milk powder, investment in education, etc.
Such huge mountains would be tiring if they were to bear on just one person...
Perhaps, some people will say that you can eat soft rice.
We really can’t, because men’s basic dignity does not allow us to do this.
We are influenced by thousands of years of patriarchal culture and subconsciously believe that we should be the backbone of the family.
Under the influence of this culture, girls tend to ignore the issue of survival and believe that men should be responsible for earning money to support the family.
But the reality is that among ordinary employees, the income of men is only 4% higher than that of women, while the overall gap is 20%. This shows that there are indeed a few bosses among men, but for most ordinary men The income is similar to that of girls.
But mostWomen do not have the financial pressure of a patriarchal culture and fall into the assumption that material things have been met. They believe that men should have cars and houses, and men should go out to eat and pay the bills.
So, why are boys unwilling to spend money on girls?
The essence of this problem is to take the initiative The problem is that boys take the initiative to spend money on girls, which seems to be a sign of pursuit, but actually they want to get the emotional value they want from the other party through spending money.
This is like the polygamy system in feudal society. People spend a lot of money to marry the wives who come into the family, and use the money to exchange for their freedom. Women are dependent on men and will eventually become men’s commodities. This is the "materialization" of feudal society. That’s how “female” came to be.
In fact, everyone knows that as long as a man has enough money and is recognized by society, all men want to be a king, and subconsciously they will look down on the woman who prostituted him for free.
Our country has advocated free love and gender equality since the New Culture Period. After the founding of the People's Republic of China, the slogan "Women hold up half the sky" has led to the rise of Chinese women today.
I think that in a relationship between the sexes, no one should pay more for anyone.
Women should not be a passive role, but should take the initiative to pursue feelings, and should not wait passively when they see a boy they like.
This society is very cruel. The limited quantity you are interested in may be gone in one night. High-quality partners are in hot demand.
I encourage girls to take the initiative to spend money on boys. Please throw a lot of money at us, and don’t pity us just because we are delicate flowers.
So, got it. It’s not that I don’t want to invest, it’s just that it’s not worth it.
When you meet someone worthy, you will still prefer them as always.
But you must also remember to control the degree.
