Many boys who can’t get out of singles always blame some external factors for the reason, but in the final analysis it is a problem of mentality. Many boys are bound by inertial thinking, so that they are restrained when getting along with the opposite sex. Below we have summarized some reasons why boys can’t get out of singles, let’s see how many of them you win.
1. Too superstitious about authority
Always want to rely on tricks to "fix it once and for all"
But everyone's own conditions and starting points are different, which also determines what everyone thinks. A different approach is required.
Therefore, instead of blindly entangled and wandering, it is better to calm down, spend some time to examine yourself, list your own conditions (image, work ability, life ability, communication ability, hobbies), and the opposite sex you like. standard.
Then, come out of the utopia of love movies, expand your social circle, try to contact different people of the opposite sex, understand their preferences and living habits, listen to their views and standards of the opposite sex, learn and The way they get along.
In this way, you can gradually find a love model that suits you.
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2. Draw the ground as a prison in the safe zone
The change of a person does not lie in changing the clothes Or recite a few jokes, but constantly change your behavior patterns to make yourself better.
In this process, you will always touch many uncomfortable areas.
Insecurity comes from the fear of the unknown. Once you try it, you will know that it is not a big deal.
When you feel uncomfortable, please remember, don’t be afraid, it means growth.
Only by making your life active and full of positive, healthy and interesting elements will more attractive people be attracted to you, and only in this way can your charm be kept fresh.
3. Don’t dare to embrace new ideas
Thanks to traditional education and some unscrupulous businessmen, The love scene has always been a popular area for false common sense, and many inexperienced boys and girls have gone astray accordingly.
Many people say "just chase if you like it", but the reality is that true love is always attracted to each other. The pursuit of losing attraction is a waste of energy. Even if you catch one, the cinnabar is not as valuable as the red soil, and it is difficult to enjoy the true love. of happiness.
Many people say that "company is the best confession", but the reality is that too many infatuated people become spare tires in the long companionship.
Many people say that "love means not rejecting", but reality has proven time and time again that bottomless compromise means breaking up.Prelude.
Love is a subtle relationship, and many concepts are counter-logical, counter-intuitive, and counter-intuitive. That is to say, you need to abandon the old thinking model and set new rules of the game for yourself, otherwise nothing will happen. All in vain.
Based on traditional concepts, we often label people and things around us in various ways.
We will assume that if I ask a woman to pay the bill while eating, she will look down on me;
Assuming that if I treat her well, she will treat me well and like me.
In fact, these many assumptions will only hinder you from advancing your emotional relationship with the other person, and the facts tell us that these assumptions are groundless.
In fact, women are often more open-minded than we think, and it is often men, not women, who are conservative.
Women are not synonymous with material things, good babies, or princess diseases. If you think they are, then it is probably your problem.
Only because you are too afraid of rejection and too cautious, they appear so fragile in your eyes.
In order to get her, you have to accept the risk of rejection.
Although this is usually difficult to do in front of a woman you particularly like.
4. Talking on paper
Countless boys download books and videos about sexual relations online, but they never to learn the material, let alone practice it.
They regard this as a pastime and never practice with the materials in real life.
There are even some so-called famous teachers and experts who are always clear-cut when talking about theories, know everything about everything, and know 100 ways to pursue love, but they don’t have a girlfriend.
Talking on paper will not teach you a master in practice. Relationship between men and women is a knowledge that can only be understood through practice.
Only through a lot of investment (time, energy, money, etc.) can you truly gain something, and this investment will greatly enrich your life.
If you are not ready to make the investment yet, then in my opinion, it is better to stop now than to give up halfway.
