When you like a girl, you will feel the passion all over your body being ignited. You will think about this girl all day long and want to contact her. However, there are differences in the emotional development of men and women, and girls do not. You are passionate when you first start, but you are used to being slow to warm up, so when you are chasing girls, you need to pay attention to the frequency of your contact.
1. Initial stage (contact at least once a week)
Chat time
1. Don’t send messages too frequently when you’ve just met a girl. If you’re not very familiar with a girl you’ve just met, it’s already great if you can add her as a friend. Therefore, we have to be acquainted and not chat with each other too frequently. Try to go through Moments first, etc. Ways to get to know girls.
2. Select the chat time based on the other person’s circle of friends. Chat with the girl when the other person is free, so that you can get a reply. After all, girls don’t like to be disturbed when they are at work or doing things. , so how do you know when the other party is free? First, from 8 pm to 11 pm, this time period is when women are more free; second, according to the time when girls post in Moments, girls will definitely upload pictures in Moments. Do some editing first, and you can also chat with girls during this time.
3. How long should you chat each time?
(1) When chatting with a girl you just met, you should pay attention to the chatting time. Don’t chat too long, which will make you appear in front of the girl. Without a sense of mystery, she has no desire to explore you;
(2) Taking the initiative to end the chat before the break time is a sign of attentiveness;
(3) When you When you don’t know what to send, you should also end the topic in time to avoid being at a loss for words during your chat.
2. Good impression stage (contact in about two days)
No need to worry about saying the wrong thing
Many boys are always worried about saying the wrong thing when chatting with girls, so they would rather stay silent than say something that they feel is not too profound. It is not advisable to have this idea when chatting with girls. The purpose of communication between lovers is to express care and understanding to each other and achieve the purpose of promoting feelings. If in front of girls, you dare not say this and are embarrassed to say that, then why not? What's the point? Therefore, you must dare to speak up. Even if it is wrong, it doesn't matter, the other party will not mind.
Don’t change topics frequently
When a chat topic is not over and they suddenly have nothing to say, many people want to end the topic early and change the topic to the next one, maybe this At that time, the girl hasn't finished chatting to the fullest, and it may be even more embarrassing if she is asked to start another topic again. Therefore, when chatting with girls, if a topic is not over yet, don’t change it frequently.Change the chat topic.
Know how to listen responsively
When girls are chatting, it is not enough to simply listen. They must also find ways to respond. You can add your own opinions or put forward what you don’t want. If you understand, ask her to repeat it or explain it again, and guiding girls to speak freely is an effective communication.
3. Ambiguity stage (daily contact)
Ambiguity is simply "friends or lovers but not friends" Full".
When the ambiguous relationship between opposite sexes lasts too long, but neither party is willing to take the initiative to express love first, then it is easy for the other party to misunderstand you. They may think that you are a playboy, or they may think that you are not too courageous. Small.
Therefore, don’t be too restrained when chasing girls at this time. Talk if you can, meet if you can, and have more possibilities with girls.
Psychologist Gary Chapman divides love into these five types in "The Five Love Languages": "Words of affirmation, quality moments, receiving gifts, acts of service, physical Contact. "
If you want to end chasing girls at this stage, then you need to do the above points.
