On a blind date, you can only understand the basic information of the other party, so when you meet, if you are not very good at chatting, you will often get cold feet. If this happens too often, then the blind date is destined to be a failure. If you are on a blind date, how do you start a chat without getting cold feet?
1. Start with a relaxed topic
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Although a blind date is more formal, it should not be too polite. Being too polite will only alienate the distance between two people. Therefore, we can praise each other with a friendly face, or use a more relaxed third-party topic. At the beginning, the familiar chat was like two old friends meeting.
For example, you can say something like this: "Before I met you, I imagined you to be very cold, but I didn't expect you to be very approachable after meeting you", or "The weather is very good today, which is perfect for our date."
2. Talk more about each other
Everyone’s focus is on themselves, and they should guide the other party to share and show themselves through open-ended questions. For example, you can do this Say: "Hey, what do you usually like to do?" The other party will usually reply with a few hobbies, and then extend the information points of the other party's reply. It would be better if the other party has the same hobbies as you. If you find a common topic, just No need to worry about a cold date.
3. Talk about yourself appropriately
It is necessary to show yourself appropriately , of course, it is taboo to brag, show off, and pretend to be X. Anyone with a discerning eye can see it at a glance. If you leave a girl with the image of a gentleman, a motivated, and a warm man by showing yourself off, then the possibility of your subsequent blind date is very high.
The best way to show yourself is to tell stories, embed details, values ??and pictures into the stories, and use storytelling to cause emotional fluctuations in the other party. For example, if you talk about food, you can tell the girl about the time when you first learned to cook. It is best to be precise about the time, place, dish name, etc. Only in this way can the story leave a deep impression on the girl.
4. Find topics based on the surrounding environment
If you feel that you have exhausted the topic, you can start with what you can see around you. . For example, if you see an advertisement or celebrity endorsement outside the window, you can chat with a girl about the advertisement or celebrity; for example, if you see a beggar passing by, you can chat with a girl about your views on beggars, etc.
5. You can talk about travel or experiences
Let’s just leave ofEveryone longs for travel. You can talk to girls about where you want to travel, what interesting things happened during the trip, where you plan to travel in the future, etc. This way you can not only show your broadened horizons to the other party, but also You can also inadvertently reflect your own hobbies and tastes.
6. You can laugh at yourself appropriately
Self-deprecation is the highest state of humor. Many boys will usually show off themselves in a rhetorical way when meeting their date. Bragging about your advantages and boasting about how successful your career is and how vast the world you have seen will actually only arouse resentment in your blind date.
We might as well laugh at ourselves about our shortcomings appropriately. For example, when you are chatting in silence, you can laugh at yourself and say: "I am so straight. I don't know what to say when I get nervous." In this way, the other party will find you humorous and generous, and be willing to continue dating you.
7. Create resonance
What is creating resonance? It means what you say Your words touch the other person's inner emotions, and the other person feels that you understand her very well and she is willing to continue chatting with you. The most convenient way to create resonance is to find a common topic. Simply put, it is a common view and feeling about things. With a common topic, the other person I am willing to let down my guard and treat you as an old friend and chat with you in a natural manner.
8. Use keywords to extend
Every sentence we say will provide important keywords, such as a simple sentence "The weather is good today", Weather is the key word in this sentence. As long as we talk around this "weather", we can create many topics to talk to each other.
Of course, chatting is an interactive process between two parties. You not only have to capture the other party’s keywords to build a conversation, but you also need to know how to throw your own keywords to the other party so that the other party can pick up the reply. Talk.
Chat demonstration:
Female: "The weather is good today" - keyword weather
Male: "Yeah, it rained a lot the past few days and I was very depressed. Maybe God heard that we were going on a date today, so it made the weather clear on purpose."
Female: "Haha, you really know how to talk. , and you can also know God’s thoughts.”
Male: “Because it gave me a dream when I slept last night, saying that I would meet a charming young lady today.”
9. Learn to praise each other appropriately
Sincere compliments can adjust the chat atmosphere and open up the other person’s chat box, and women are more vain animals who love beauty, so when going on a blind dateNever be stingy with your words of praise.
10. Asking questions in moderation
Continuous questioning becomes like checking household registration. Before two people are familiar with each other, excessive questioning will only arouse each other’s feelings. Antipathy, and this is also a sign of disrespect for the other party.
