1. Create visible attraction
The most intuitive thing is physical attraction. Therefore, it is also important for girls to wear makeup to lose weight, and for boys to find a style that suits them appropriately. It is also important to stay fit, feel fresh, confident and sunny. Remember, appearance is not entirely to satisfy the other person, but to increase your self-confidence and the probability that the other person will see you and be willing to get to know you. Otherwise, no matter how showy you are, without a strong sexual attraction, the other party may not be interested in getting to know you. .
2. Create a sense of value scarcity
In your common circle, it is best to create the impression that you are great in a certain aspect.
For example, if you are excellent in all aspects, it will be easy to be popular, and there will be many interested people; but if you are not, then specialize in building your greatest value in one aspect. You are invincible at badminton, you are good at games, you are good at writing articles, you are good at painting and design, you are good at playing piano, guzheng, computers, etc. The point is that your value has a certain "authoritative influence" in the circle. To the extent that people talk about you and praise you, there will naturally be people who are willing to know and have further contact with you.
3. Create a value gap where the other party may need the object
Specifically speaking, what does the other party lack and what do you have? , can lend a helping hand at critical times.
Give an example. The school idol was taken by an ordinary girl. The girls used to have a crush on each other. They lived close to each other but they didn't dare to say hello. As a boy who is usually excellent, he rarely shows his weaknesses to others. That day he was sick and there was no one at home. The girl met him and went downstairs to buy medicine. As a result, the girl who had a crush on him settled him down, went to buy medicine and made porridge, and took care of him throughout the process. Later, the two became more and more familiar with each other and got together.
To sum up, if the other person is big, you are meticulous and planned, if the other person is serious, you are sunny and confident; if the other person likes sports but is not good at sports, you are good at sports but can take her to play, you are powerful but the other person longs for someone to protect you, etc. All very good points. Seize it, these are opportunities.
4. Create opportunities for heartbeats
Many people do not want to fall in love, but suffer from the lack of love in their small circle. If you are a person, then go and look in other circles. Falling in love requires the right occasion. For example, compared with the opposite sex you meet in libraries, schools, and workplaces, compared with the opposite sex you meet in bars, etc., the former is more serious, but the relationship is more reserved and difficult to develop; the latter is easy to develop, but the degree of seriousness is lower.
It is recommended to expand your circle based on your own interests and hobbies. School students join more clubs and participate in more activities and performances to show themselves; at work, they go to the gym, write scripts, etc., and get to know people outside of work.
After discovering the target, if you are the person you are attracted to, take the initiative to get to know him, create conditions, and develop opportunities. If you want the other person to take the initiative, you should also create opportunities for the other person to have more contact with and get to know you.
At the same time, if you want the other party to confess, you should find ways to increase the ambiguous atmosphere and the opportunity for the two of you to be alone. If necessary, reveal some "popularity" according to the situation. You also have the stimulation of the suitor, and use a sense of urgency to increase the other party's confession. idea.
There was a girl who wanted to make a boy like her, so she visited the boy's favorite restaurant many times. She went to work every day, but the boys noticed her over and over again. One time, the boy's phone was out of battery and he couldn't pay, so the girl helped advance the payment. The boy took the initiative to leave the girl's contact information in order to express his gratitude, and then they went back and forth together.
In the eyes of boys, their relationship is fate and something initiated by him; in the eyes of girls, it is the result of their own initiative and hard work.
If you can do the above four points, you are basically already half a love expert. Can love be far behind?
