If a man and a woman have a crush on each other, many people may think that this is a good opportunity. As long as one party makes it clear that he likes the other, wouldn't it be logical for them to be together? But the reality may not be that simple. Let’s analyze why men and women have a crush on each other but are very cold towards each other? Isn’t it love enough?
1. For the so-called self-esteem
In fact, both boys and girls will have their own self-esteem. Isn’t there a saying that goes like this: Whoever takes the initiative first in a relationship loses . Therefore, some men and women clearly like each other in their hearts and are secretly in love with each other. They are passionate in their hearts, but on the surface they are cold and calm. This is for the so-called self-esteem they say, not necessarily for identity or worth, but for human dignity, to cover up and maintain with indifference, to resist the condescension of the other party in the heart, and not to like one's feelings for the other party to be seen.
2. Playing hard to get
Many people will be respectful to the person they have a crush on, please them in every possible way, and create Opportunities seek breakthroughs and always move each other; but some people are just the opposite. Even if they have a crush on each other, they will behave "inconsistently". Why is this happening? This actually involves a love method we talked about: playing hard to get. They want to use their abnormal indifference to maybe attract the attention of the other party, and because of this indifference, it will trigger the other party's desire to conquer and change from passive to active. Of course, this subconscious idea may not be clear to the person involved, so naturally it is this A kind of style.
3. Helpless move
Many men and women lack love experience and don’t know how to be with someone they like, When you get along with someone you have a crush on, you don’t know how to behave in front of the person you have a crush on. You may be embarrassed to smile, let alone express yourself in words. What should you do? I'm also afraid that if I don't perform well, I'll leave a bad impression on the other person, so I'll treat him coldly and indifferently. At least this way I won't make mistakes or appear stupid, and I can still maintain a cold image. , so let’s be indifferent to each other.
4. Afraid that you will get the wrong idea
Many men and women who have a crush on each other but are very cold to each other are just I'm just afraid that I'll get it wrong.
Because I like you, but I’m afraid that other people will know; because I like you, but I’m afraid that you won’t like me after I get close to you; because I like you, but I’m afraid that I won’t be able to hide my love after getting close to you; because I like you, but I’m too shy to know What should I say to you; because I like you, but you don’t know; because I like you, but I’m afraid you won’t like me... Well, I have to become more indifferent, and I can’t let you guess that I like you.
Mutual crushMen and women who are very indifferent to each other generally have no love experience. Love is a sacred and beautiful thing in their hearts. Therefore, although they have a crush on each other, they stop there and dare not come forward. They use indifference to maintain their dignity, but In this way, it is very likely that we will miss each other, so we still have to muster the courage to take the first step!
