"The older you grow, the lonelier you become." This is not just a lyric, but also the current situation of many people. After working, I feel that there are not many people around me who can really speak my mind, let alone know the opposite sex. This has led to many boys staying single for a long time.
In this case, if you do not update your social circle in time, you may be destined to live alone. Below, the editor will help you update your social circle.
It is said that "the first to get the moon is the one closest to the water", you If we want to "get the moon", we must first have a "balcony". What do you mean? You can't just have girls around you. You have to be able to talk to girls and have a certain emotional foundation.
According to the exposure effect in psychology, the more familiar a man and a woman are with each other, the deeper the emotional foundation and the greater the chance of attraction.
However, the emotional foundation should not be too deep, otherwise it will be affected by "over-exposure", which is why many people become good buddies and good friends with girls, so at this level you can also Be sure to grasp it.
Let me help you take stock of the types of girls around you who are most likely to develop into lovers with you:
Girls who often interact with each other can guarantee a certain degree of exposure;
< p> For girls who have common friends, it is easier to establish a sense of connection;For girls who do not contact you often, but suddenly ask you for help;
For girls who are in the same environment as you Girls with common topics...
These have the opportunity to develop into your lovers.
If you had a good impression of each other before, then the subsequent upgrade of the relationship will be very simple. You can take her to do things that are outside of the environment in which you met.
If she is your colleague, you can try to ask her to do something out of the work environment, such as asking her to accompany you back to your alma mater to visit your teacher.
If she is an old classmate you haven’t seen for many years, you can recall the past shared experiences, and then show the other person your changes, so that the other person can feel that you are getting better and better, thus generating new attraction. .
To sum it up in one sentence, ask a strange girl to a familiar place and ask a familiar girl to a strange place.
Of course, the specific method of invitation is also particular. It should not only make the other party think that what you are going to do is interesting, but also not reveal your sense of need.
But if you and the girl are just acquaintances, it is not convenient to invite her at this stage. What you should do now is to cultivate her good impression of you through humorous chatting.
If there is no girl around you who can develop into a lover, you need to find new friends through some channels.
Friends will not come to you on their own, taking the initiative is the way to go. If you I am the shy type and suffer from social barriers. Let me share some tips with you.
You don’t need to force yourself to find something to talk about. Start with some of your interests and hobbies. For example, (if) I am troubled by obesity recently, then I clearly realize that I need to find a like-minded partner to work out with.
The same goals and hobbies mean more common topics, which makes it easier for two people to get closer. It’s about meeting new people based on your needs.
Then if you find a girl you like, and intend to develop further, you need to focus on her interests and hobbies.
You can first delineate her interests and hobbies from her social status or through her friends, and then try to "collide" with her to find common hobbies, so that the girl will be deeply impressed by you.
For example, if you have a girl’s contact information, you can use some listening apps to search for her account through contact search. At this time, you can see her most popular playlists. Then pretend to be casual and share one of the songs with her. If you have a friend with the script of "Encounter" but get a blank result, don't say it was taught by me.
To sum up, if you want to be single for a long time, you need to expand your social circle. To expand your social circle, you can first explore potential friends around you and then make new friends.