When chatting with girls, the most fearful thing is that the air suddenly becomes quiet. When many boys chat with the girls they like on WeChat, they will always fall into a state of brain short-circuit. After saying the previous sentence, they don’t know what to say next. What, and then enter a cold state.
So how can you chat with the girl you like on WeChat without being left in the cold? Here are 4 simple tips: Tips for rescuing cold scenes.
Step 1: Make the topic logically clear
The reason why many people suddenly can’t chat with girls is not because of any problems in the relationship. It's simply because of problems with my ability to express and understand.
It often happens that the previous sentence is talking about one thing, but the next sentence is completely unrelated. There is no connection and logic between the previous sentence and the previous sentence. As a result, the girl cannot keep up with her thinking and has no way to connect with his words. Use ellipsis and uh-oh instead.
Or when a girl is talking, he is thinking about other things while listening, and then confuses what the girl says with other things he is thinking about, and what he says makes the girl confused, and she doesn’t want to talk to him anymore. .
So when you are chatting with girls, you must learn two things: First, after starting a topic, you must follow the topic. Even if you want to suddenly move to other places, there must be key points. The words serve as foreshadowing; secondly, girls should pay attention to listening when they speak, and don’t speak without reason.
Tip 2: Don’t use too jumping-off opening remarks
We After getting to know a girl, you must leave a good impression on her so that she will be more willing to have more information with you, so everyone hopes to leave a good impression on the girl with a very positive and uplifting attitude.
As a result, some people use too much force...for example, they use some overly funny emoticons to appear humorous, or they forcefully make assumptions about girls' behavior and inner thoughts:
Man: (Throws out the pretentious emoticon.)
Female: "Um, what is this?"
Male: "How about it, he is handsome."
< p> Girl: "...(I can't answer this)"Because if you are not familiar with a girl and have no way to judge her character, it is best not to use this type of method. There is a huge gap between the upper limit and the lower limit. way to greet her.
Girls who can accept this style will naturally like you very much, but the situation you are more likely to encounter is: the girl thinks you are not serious, or simply thinks you are stupid.
Tip 3: Extend the information to continue the topic
If you don’t find a suitable topic and the other person is not good at leading the topic, in this case, both of you will be very passive and have no way to control the conversation, so the conversation will be inevitable. Talking about the ending of a dead end.
For example, this classic awkward conversation:
Male: “Did you eat?”Female: “Eat.”
Male: “What did you eat? "Female: "Noodles."
Male: "What kind of noodles?"Female: "..."
At this point, both of them will probably feel embarrassed, not only did they ask. The question is stupid and the person who answered it has no idea about flexible docking. The girl felt that if she answered another sentence, the boy would definitely keep asking such stupid questions endlessly.
To put it bluntly, most topics will lead to dead ends. The problem lies in continuity and scalability. A chat without scalability and continuity is more than just the other party not knowing how to answer the conversation. A few words Afterwards, often even the topic initiator doesn’t know what he is talking about.
If either of the two people could diverge and expand the topic, this result would not occur.
Let’s just say “eat” is a very simple answer. But “what did you eat” is not the only word that can connect it. You can expand this information into many topics based on the current environment, time, girls’ habits, etc. < /p>
If the girl says yes, you can base it on her working overtime, for example:
“Hey, you’ve worked overtime three times this week, why is your boss so cruel? I'm not afraid of starving you. Next time I ask you to work overtime, you have to ask him to provide you with dinner."
The topic has expanded from a simple greeting of "Have you eaten?" to overtime, leadership, and treats. Regarding things like this, you can expand more events from these things, and the topic can continue continuously. Will there be a silence?
The fourth trick, cover up the sense of need
Sometimes your sense of need is suddenly exposed, which will leave girls speechless, such as: "You don't have to go to work tomorrow. Come on, I'll take you to XX to eat bullfrog."
If you count the days when she is not at work and make an appointment with her, then the girl will know right away that you need her. , if I don’t mean that to you, I will probably be at a loss at this time. A strange feeling of embarrassment came up, and the girl felt that she was in a dilemma, so she chose to shut up.Mouth.
At this time, we need to cover up the sense of need and relieve the girl's embarrassment, so that we can continue to have a good chat with her.
Then how to cover up the embarrassment? There is no need to explain, the explanation is true.
You can change your words into something else by diverting your attention, such as:
"Haha, if you don't speak, that means you won't go. Then I can eat a whole "I've been craving bullfrog from that restaurant for a long time."
Girls will think that they are overthinking it. You will go to this restaurant to eat bullfrog with or without her. It's just a matter of convenience. This behavior will make girls feel more relaxed.
If you happily say something to a girl and find that she suddenly falls silent, it is likely that your words exposed your need for her and created pressure for her. At this time, you must let her She feels that you have no purpose for her, so she dares to continue chatting with you normally.
