The beginning of a marriage is often very sweet, but if you get along in the wrong way for a long time, the relationship will inevitably slowly fade away, and the marriage will fall into a state of "living together". This kind of marriage is very Tired, then why do marriages where people live together appear?
1. Why do marriages where people live together appear?
1. Each husband and wife spend their own money
In fact, after getting married, the money earned by the couple should become common property. Of course, there is no need to divide the money spent on large and small things at home. So it is clear that two people should raise a family and children together, but if a couple still divides their money very lightly after getting married, or even has an AA system for everything, then they have not integrated true feelings and are simply "living together".
2. Whatever you do, you have to take care of yourself
It is said that "men are the masters of the outside world, and women are the masters of the home". Men earn money outside in order to provide the family with stronger economic security. , and women take care of everything at home, so that they have the warmth of home. But if after marriage, the living habits and personalities of two people are not the same, but they are more like roommates sharing a house, and they have their own interests in washing, cooking, and hobbies, then this is not a married life. Isn't it also a "living together"? ”?
3. Make each other feel restricted
Many couples don’t know where they learned it. After getting married, they set a lot of strict rules for each other, and even set out "Party A and Party B", what's even more funny is that if one party breaks the rules, he will be punished. With this kind of lifestyle, it doesn't look like a couple. They are basically roommates living together. This is not "living together". What?
4. Don’t care about each other
In fact, many people think that love slowly develops between couples When it becomes a family relationship, you will no longer manage this relationship. As time goes by, of course you won’t bother to care about the other person, and you won’t think about cultivating common interests and hobbies. Of course, you will become less and less talkative, and you will naturally feel that marriage Life is becoming less and less interesting, and in the end it has become a matter of "living together"!
5. Care about everything
This is actually a bit like the AA system Yes, if there is no relationship between husband and wife, and they are arguing with each other, they must talk about trivial things anyway, and then they will keep complaining about each other. If the two of them quarrel and get awkward next time, they still have to talk about it. I like to settle old scores very much. Of course, after a long time, although we live under the same roof, there is not much affection anymore. Isn’t this “living together”?
This kind of makeshift marriage is also ridiculous. , many couples in this kind of "living together" marriage will gradually reach the stage of divorce, but some couples will choose to just make do with it, which isWhat is the reason?
2. Why not divorce
1. I don’t want my white-haired parents to worry< /p>
In fact, this is one of my difficulties. Before I got married, my parents had already advised me not to marry far away. They also said that daughters married far away were the children abandoned by their parents. But at the time, I was overwhelmed by love. I chose to marry far away despite my parents' opposition. In fact, my parents said so, and I understood their feelings at the time.
In the 12 years of marriage, no matter what happens, I always choose to report good news rather than worry, and try my best to make my parents feel that my marriage is very happy. If one day I tell them that I am getting divorced, then My lies for the past 12 years will be exposed, and I can’t imagine whether my parents can withstand such a blow. In order not to worry my parents, I chose to continue.
2. I don’t want my daughter to become a single-parent family
Many people say that if you get divorced, just get divorced and don’t use your children as a shield. In fact, children of divorce are the most hurt and innocent. This is also what I mean. The second difficulty is that if the couple divorces, you will be relieved, but for the children, there will always be a dark shadow.
This will also affect the life of the child. Although my husband and I usually have no relationship, my husband is still very good to the child. At least he fulfills his responsibilities as a father. Therefore, for the sake of the children, I choose to continue to endure the relationship between the couple. There is nothing wrong with living together with my husband.
3. Don’t want to get to know another person again
If you remarry after a divorce, at this age, I no longer have the patience to get to know another person. At this age, you have experienced everything you should have experienced, and you have seen through the trivial matters of marriage.
The purpose of divorcing and remarrying is still to have a stable life, but although I live with a partner now, my life is stable.
So there is no need to mess with yourself. In real marriages, many couples actually live together. They just need to be responsible for the family. They have no feelings but still have a little family affection. Only this A little family affection is a reason not to choose divorce.
