The estrangement between lovers has a great impact on the relationship. If it is not dealt with in time, even if they get married, they are likely to end up in divorce or breakup. So what should we do if there is a estrangement in the relationship? How to eliminate the estrangement in the relationship?
1. Analyze the reasons for the estrangement
If you want to break the barriers in relationships, you must first understand the reasons for the barriers. Is it a different perception of things, a different attitude towards emotions, a matter of principle or a matter of three views, etc. Generally speaking, once you know the reason, half of the estrangement is solved.
However, some emotional barriers can be tolerated and changed (such as bad habits, ways of speaking, misunderstandings), and some barriers may not be eliminated (such as cheating, deception). You should also be confident in your heart. If the gap is really irreversible, it is still recommended to break up. Otherwise, the gap will always be between you and both of you will be uncomfortable.
2. Self-reflection
The estrangement between two people is originally the result of communication problems. Or one party's perception is too weak and he is not aware of the problem, so eliminating the gap cannot be solved by simple communication, because he himself has problems with communication. At this time, not only the two parties need to have a more in-depth dialogue, but also both parties reflect on their own problems. If the problems that arise are still unresolved, it will actually be difficult to move on. Mistakes will not be eliminated, they will only accumulate. The gaps that appear today will be tomorrow’s conflicts. You can say goodbye with a smile today, but they will be gone tomorrow. I can only break my heart. So, let’s see if self-reflection is useful first.
3. If there is an emotional gap, can we still continue to date?
If the gap is big enough to affect you, If you continue to communicate, you cannot continue to communicate; otherwise, you can continue to communicate.
The so-called love is just an instinct determined by genes. A temporary infatuation is just due to hormones. A long-term and happy relationship requires the harmony of three views. Generally, the three views of adults have been formed and are difficult to change. If the three views are too different, the value of being together must be carefully considered. It is not a matter of principle, communicate openly and strive to seek common ground while reserving differences. As for the issue of principle, I am not very optimistic about it.
The key to eliminating the barriers in relationships lies in what the barriers are. If it is an insignificant issue, it can be broken in a day or two. Once this gap involves the bottom line and principles of both parties, if it is a gap that you are very concerned about, it is like a wound on your arm. After a long time, the wound heals, and after a long time you may forget how painful it was at that time, but That scar still reminds you that you have been hurt. Even if they are forced to stay together, it will be a torture for both parties. It is recommended to consider carefully.
