When your relationship is stable enough, you will definitely consider getting married. However, getting married is not the same as falling in love. Marriage is a major event in our lives, so we need to think twice before making a move. So today the editor has brought you some ideas for couples. Let’s take a look at what to consider when getting married.
Since when did you decide to marry your partner?
Economist Xue Zhaofeng once said : "Whether you can marry someone or whether you want to marry someone depends not on the highest point, but on the lowest point." If you can accept the lowest point of the other person, maybe you can live together.
What is the lowest point?
It is this person’s biggest shortcoming. When we are in love, it is always easy for us to see the "highest point" of the other person, which is the advantage, but often ignore the "lowest point" of the other person. But after marriage, those advantages lost their luster, and the shortcomings were gradually exposed. Therefore, there were always quarrels after marriage.
1. Are you still in the infatuation stage?
For ordinary individuals, we always seem to have to go through a period of time. We are infatuated at the beginning, and then slowly get used to it when we discover shortcomings. Some people parted ways, and some people continued to work together after getting along. After going through this stage, you begin to meet your true self and the other person. The person in front of me no longer has all the advantages and disadvantages.
2. Do you know enough about his/her original family?
Generally speaking, the relationship between parents The method is likely to affect the children's mutual model, so you can see how the other parent gets along and whether the parents have particularly strong control over their children. If the way their parents get along makes you feel uncomfortable, you can have a discussion about it, which is also the key to getting along.
3. Do you understand each other’s behavioral habits?
For example, attitude towards money, attitude towards sex, attitude towards having children, etc. Are the two people compatible?
4. Can we keep our word?
We should not rush into an intimate relationship. We should take more time to understand each other, and more importantly, understand each other's shortcomings, especially the shortcomings of the other party. Your “biggest flaw”. If he can't change this shortcoming, whether you can continue on is a question you need to think about before getting married.
The above is what the editor brings to you today what couples should consider if they want to get married. After knowing these, it is not too late to decide to get married, come on!
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