I don’t know how many couples have had conflicts over whether the husband turned in his salary card after marriage, because according to the traditional view, the husband earns money to support the family, and the wife is responsible for taking care of the home and daily expenses, so it is usually the husband. Submit wages. But times have changed now. Both men and women have jobs and can earn money to support their families. Is it correct for men to hand over their wages after marriage? Have you turned in your salary card?
Is it correct for a man to hand over his salary after marriage?
1. Whoever has the ability will manage the money
I support all behaviors that strip away gender labels. I want to truly Feminism would also support this position. The persecution of women in traditional male-dominated society is also the result of assigning too many gender labels. "It is virtue for a woman to have no talent" and "you are responsible for making money to support the family, and I am responsible for looking beautiful" are all strengthening gender stereotypes. Impression, by depriving women of their right to education and participation in social work, constructs class barriers in a patriarchal society.
We should resolutely fight against all practices that enhance gender labels. Things are not decided based on gender, but only based on specific individuals and abilities.
The same applies to property management after marriage. It should not be linked to gender, but to ability. Who controls and manages property depends on whether they have one of the following two abilities:
The ability to increase revenue and reduce expenditure: know how to budget carefully and shop around when purchasing items to make family spending more efficient.
Ability to increase property value: Having excellent financial management or investment capabilities can increase the value of family assets.
Which of the two spouses has these two abilities better, and which party should control the family assets should not make decisions based on gender. If both parties do not have this ability, don’t manage assets unilaterally, deposit them into a joint family account, and negotiate large expenditures to avoid being defrauded by some financial institutions.
2. It doesn’t matter whether a man pays his salary after marriage or not
All actions in the world are based on equal rights and responsibilities. Those who are particularly yearning for "handing over income" are often young girls who have never married. They feel that this makes them occupy a "upper position" in intimate relationships. However, the responsibility of managing money is cumbersome and detailed. You have to summarize the income of the whole family. You have to calculate the expenses of the whole family, such as firewood, rice, oil and salt, water, electricity and gas, property insurance, daily maintenance, mortgage, car loan and medical preparation. Aren't you upset?
Of course, I also understand that the woman is worried about the perspective that "men become bad when they have money", but first of all, trust in this era Sensitivity is reduced, and money can turn bad regardless of gender. It is difficult to convince the other party with this reason. Secondly, there are other alternatives to solve this matter. For example, if both parties put their wages in a joint family account, both parties can see the inflow and outflow of assets. After all, you are just worried about the other party spending money randomly., as long as you can monitor the direction of money, there is no need to use full management.
