Many people may think that since the love in the beginning is so sweet, shouldn’t the relationship become deeper and deeper as the relationship lasts longer? How can there be aversion to love? In fact, this is related to the loss of freshness and misunderstanding and estrangement. So what should you do when the period of love aversion comes? How should we deal with it well so that we can move on?
1. Communication issues
But you have found that your relationship has entered the antipathy period, then there must be a problem with your relationship. At this time, you need to sit down calmly. Discuss some of the issues that have arisen between you. Everyone tells each other their needs. In constant communication and integration, you know each other's needs and let each other know your needs. Eventually you reach a consensus and the distance between you can get closer and closer.
If everyone has their own needs but does not speak out, the result will naturally be further and further away.
2. Give each other space
Before falling in love, everyone is a free person, but after falling in love, we must take care of it When you feel the other person's feelings, your freedom feels restricted, so many people feel constrained after falling in love. If this is the case, especially if your lover likes to control others, then be sure to speak up and let her give you space. If you have a strong possessive desire for your lover, then you need to focus more on your own life instead of restricting the other person's life.
In the process of love, being blindly clingy is poison to the relationship. Even if you have been in love for a long time, each other needs to have their own space. No one in a relationship wants to be controlled by another person. of.
3. Find the best way to get along
Although they are in love, many couples do not get along so well. Happily, one person may like to nag, while the other person refuses to change his mind despite repeated admonitions. As time goes by, one person becomes too lazy to talk and the other person is too lazy to listen. Maybe one person likes to stay at home on the weekends, while the other person likes to go out for a walk during their breaks. If this continues for a long time, it would be strange if there are no problems in the relationship.
In fact, in an intimate relationship, we need to first understand our own way of getting along with love, and at the same time understand the way of getting along that makes the other person feel comfortable. Maybe the way you want to get along is that everyone can be at peace with each other, and as long as they are together and accompanied by each other, they can do anything, but the way the other person wants to get along is for two people to do the same thing together. In this case, two people can try to communicate and find a way to get along comfortably with each other. Trying to find a way of getting along that is acceptable to both parties is the first step to bringing your relationship closer.
Four. Consider whether you are really suitable
After a relationship enters the aversion period, what should you consider? In addition to persistence, youYou also need to calm down and think about whether you really love each other, whether you really need her, whether she is your "her" in the future...and then make a decision. Don't be reluctant to let go of the feeling of being in love now or having someone to accompany you. Warmth and these short-term so-called "happiness" will be compromised. If we continue to compromise, it will cause great harm to each other.
In fact, it is not terrible to enter the aversion period in love. What is terrible is that it goes further and further away because of not coping well. As long as you can do the above aspects, being able to persist is not a big problem.
