Looking at the rising divorce rate, many people have a fear of marriage. They feel that if two people get married, there will be more and more troubles, and it will be difficult to be happy for a long time. But in fact, running a marriage Marriage is really not that difficult, you just need to deal with two things.
1. Handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
"Your mother and I fell into the river Which one will you save?" This is a fatal question for men, so when many people face this question, they don't know how to answer it and feel that they can't make a choice.
Just like you are dealing with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in marriage. You don’t know how to solve it, so you can only let it go. But over time, you will find that the relationship will become worse and worse, and even change. Uncontrollable.
So when facing the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, you must first understand the two mentalities of mother and wife. Generally speaking, the fundamental reason why mother interferes in your marriage is that you have a family. It is equivalent to leaving your parents' side and starting a new family.
And parents are definitely reluctant to let their children go out alone. They feel that they have much more experience than you, so in order to prevent you from taking the wrong path, they will continue to use their accumulated experience to Help you, but it is precisely this mentality that causes them to feel that they have the right to make a choice about your marriage.
When your wife marries you, she is equivalent to an outsider entering your family and getting back together again, so she needs to constantly To consolidate her identity as a "hostess" and to have the right to make decisions about this relationship.
When the two mentalities between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law collide, conflicts will naturally arise. Therefore, at this time, you need to balance the "power struggle" between them and never let it go. .
For example: Talk about your mother’s dedication and attitude of admitting your mistakes in front of your wife, and then be considerate of your wife, making her feel that someone understands her and cares about her, and finally give your wife a gift in the name of your mother. , making her feel grateful to her mother.
Then she will naturally take a step back and not quarrel or quarrel with her mother. When facing her mother, she will use the same method to make her mother understand her wife's contribution, so that her mother will also take a step back. , then the relationship between them will gradually become more peaceful.
And if you properly divide the energy you put into your family into two, give it to your parents and wife in a balanced way, and give them more care, then they will naturally respect each other as guests.
2. Supplement freshness in time, and it will be more interesting after marriage
Because you have entered marriage life, youYou will gradually shift your focus to work, because dissatisfaction with your current life will make you focus on making money and want to change the status quo of your marriage.
But if you do this, it will lead to a series of problems, and the most serious one is the lack of freshness, because you put too much energy on your work and ignore your care and concern for your wife. If you take care of you, you think she will understand you, but in fact, she will only think that you have gained it and not cherish it. Then she will naturally have a negative impression of you and feel that you do not love her anymore.
Gradually, she will lose expectations for you, her feelings for you will become weaker and weaker, and she will feel very tired. So she chooses to escape. If a man who takes care of her, cares for her, and understands her appears at this time, she will be blinded by this kind of flattery, feel that she has met true love, and leave you.
So when you encounter this situation, what you have to do is to distribute your time and energy reasonably. Life is important, making money is also important, but your wife’s feelings are equally important. You must not only express After your own hard work, you also need to learn to use the other person's empathy to make her understand you and pay more attention to you, so that she will be moved by what you do.
But you should also focus more on the other person. Even if you are busy and tired, you can communicate more with the other person when you get home and buy some small gifts appropriately. Prepare some surprises for each other, especially on holidays with special meaning. You have to remember it better than anyone else.
Only in this way will she feel your care and love. This gives you reason to reject other men's kindness and treat you wholeheartedly.
Managing relationships requires not only sincerity and loyalty. You also need methods. As long as you use the right method, what your marriage will give you back will definitely be happiness.
