Everyone hopes to be the protagonist in love and does not want to be the spare tire. However, when most boys are chasing a girl, they will only treat her well without asking for anything in return, and in the end they become the girl's spare tire. If a girl treats you as a backup, how should you fight back?
1. Accept the reality and change your mentality
When we find that we have unintentionally become a girl's backup, it is unwise to rush to prove ourselves to girls. It is like saying that we are not sick in a mental hospital. No one will believe it, so we must quickly change our mentality. Accept your current positioning and control the frequency and quality of contact.
Use a backup role to interact with girls, respect social rules and objective facts, and seize limited opportunities to show your true level.
2. Abandon the past and establish a new impression
The reason why the spare tire cannot be turned into a regular employee is because the other party understands You know everything. They know your shortcomings and your strengths, and they understand you completely to the point of losing interest, so you need to develop new abilities and demonstrate abilities they don't know about. Now that information is so developed, as long as we are willing to spend a certain amount of time to learn a new thing, we can roughly understand and master it. Then show your changes through appropriate channels, and the other party will definitely be surprised. As long as we can successfully attract the other party's attention, we have taken the first step to success.
3. Balance the social status of both parties
Generally speaking, beautiful girls are proud and have no shortage of suitors around them. If you express your love to a girl, you will have nothing to do with other suitors. Both will only be eliminated. At this time, if you show a sense of no need for girls, you are releasing value to girls in disguise, and attention will be focused on you.
4. Confess affectionately and face it calmly
If you do the above, the other party will definitely understand what you mean. , but I will definitely not reply to you. Because they always feel that you like him and have eaten you to death. No matter how bad he treats you, you will never leave. And you need to make the final move to break their illusions. Find a late night and tell him that you like him very much and want to be with him, but you don't want to accept this ambiguous state and let him weigh the pros and cons and make a choice. No matter what the outcome is, you have to deal with it calmly.
In fact, being a girl’s spare tire is not scary. It means that you are still within the girl’s consideration range. At this time, you must maintain your own attitude, control your sense of need, and convey your values ????and charm to girls. Let her see you differently so that she can treat you differently.
