I think everyone knows more or less about the word sense of security. It is most common among girls. If many girls do not feel safe after falling in love, they will choose to break up.
And there are too many such examples, which led to the following chicken soup: the sense of security is given to oneself. Come and blame those girls who break up because of lack of security.
But in my opinion, this sentence is very one-sided, because if you can give yourself everything, I think these insecure people (including boys) don’t need to find men anymore/ Girlfriend.
So what does a sense of security mean? How should we correctly interpret the sense of security?
In my opinion, after establishing a relationship, providing a sense of security is the most basic responsibility of both parties. The sense of security in love requires two people to build it together. Remember, this is not a multiple-choice question, it is a must-answer question.
Several key points of knowledge about security:
1. The sense of security in a love relationship comes partly from oneself and partly from the other person. When you need him/her, he/she can't give you a sense of security. He only knows to accuse you of being sensitive or something like that. It's his/her problem. If you can't solve it, just let him/her rest.
2. Let me emphasize again that giving the other person a sense of security is a responsibility that should be fulfilled, and it is also the foundation of a good relationship.
3. It comes from your own sense of security, and you must also control it. There is more than just love in life. Don't put all your energy on the other person. Your own sense of security comes from your own fulfilling life and self-confidence.
4. Maintain the proper sense of boundaries with others of the opposite sex, know how to measure, handle your ex well, and let the other person understand your life and enter your life. This is what you should do and it also provides a sense of security. The most basic thing here is the rights that the other party should enjoy.
5. As two independent individuals, when facing love, sometimes you do need some breathing space, but the breathing space is only available on the basis of ensuring that you fulfill your responsibilities and obligations. instead of turning a blind eye based on the other person's emotions and bottom line. This is not a reason for you not to give the other person a sense of security, it is just an excuse for you to be selfish.
So, next time when she tells you about your sense of security, don’t think she is being unreasonable. First reflect on whether you have done a good job before blaming her.
