Unconfident boys, even if they meet a girl they like, will not dare to pursue them because of their low self-esteem. However, the positive energy exuded by confident boys from the inside out makes people feel warm, positive and secure. , always attracting girls’ attention. So how can boys become more confident?
1. Imagination relaxation method
I remember I once gave an example that resonated with many young people:
When you were in school, you must have had the experience of speaking or performing in public. Although that day has not yet arrived, I think it will happen at that moment. With countless pairs of eyes staring at you, and only your lonely figure on the stage, you feel like your whole body is starting to get nervous.
But the battlefield will still have to go on in the end, so you can only keep imagining and practicing, and then you will find that you won’t be so nervous on that day.
Many people with low self-esteem often encounter such troubles in life. They often deny themselves before they start doing it, thinking that they must not be able to do it well.
At this time, you might as well try to imagine the environment and the people you will face a few more times, and how you should behave.
After imagining this a few times, you will get used to it.
Next time you encounter this kind of situation, don’t run away from it. Try it a few more times and you will find that it is nothing more than that.
2. Try to speak slower
When people are nervous, they will unconsciously speak. He spoke faster, as if he was eager to express himself, but the more he did this, the more panicked he became. Think about it, have you ever been like this?
Whenever you feel nervous in the future, tell yourself subconsciously: Slow down!
When you do this, you will find that, You will be more organized, and your brain will not suddenly short-circuit, or your mouth will not be able to keep up with your brain.
In the eyes of the other party, being calm and calm when things happen makes you look more mature and confident.
3. Break through yourself
I have a childhood friend who rarely talks since he was a child. Before the third grade Basically I don’t play with students in other classes.
Later he went to school in other places. As he came into contact with more and more people, his ability to communicate with others became stronger and stronger. Now he often joins group tours alone and travels with strangers.
And his heart has also undergone great changes. In the past, he always felt that he couldn't speak, so he became more and more afraid to deal with others.
Now, he feels from the bottom of his heart that my ability to communicate with others is completely sufficient in life, and I can chat with anyone.
When you accept yourself psychologically, you will slowly become more confident, and of course your condition will get better and better. This is a positive cycle.
So go out for a walk if you have nothing to do. Breaking through yourself is also a necessary process to build self-confidence.
