Some boys chase girls right away, while some boys chase girls, but they are often rejected by the other party on the grounds that "I'm sorry, you are a good person." Now, let’s follow the editor to understand what it means to be issued a good person card, and how to avoid receiving a good person card from a girl.
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1. The meaning of being given a good guy card
The word good guy card has been played badly. It is said that it originated from a bachelor who confessed to the girl he liked, but was treated as "you" by the other party. He is a good person, but we can't be together." He politely refused. From then on, "You are a good person" became the representative language for singles to be rejected. And "being issued a good person card" means being rejected by the person you like. Good guy culture is a subculture in Internet culture that developed in Taiwan and other places after the 1990s. It is related to the issue of male and female relationships, and is also somewhat related to the die-hard groups in Internet culture.
When it comes to the good person card, people who know how to do it will smile knowingly and look like they are making fun of the world. However, you may not know that you are also one of these people, but you don’t know it yet.
Not only are honest people easily assigned the good guy card, but scumbag men are also easily assigned the good guy card.
According to my research, men who are generally given the good guy card have one characteristic: warmth.
In love, warmth is a reflection of a man’s character, but when you two haven’t fallen in love yet, warmth is really not a compliment.
There are too many words to praise a man, such as Yushu Linfeng, handsome, rich in gold, extraordinary, etc. Why does she use the word "warm" to describe you? Why? It's not because you are too "soft" "Yes. You only know how to be kind to her, and do whatever she asks you to do. You have no dignity and no bottom line. You can come and go at a moment's notice.
2. How to avoid getting a good person card from a girl
1. Refuse to pay without a bottom line
p>Do you want to refuse the good guy card? Do you want to get out of the good guy circle? First learn to pay reasonably.
You can give, and no one will ask you to give. It is impossible not to give at all in a relationship. But you have to make your efforts worth something, have some value, and let her take your efforts seriously.
Give an example.
You guys went to have a meal together. After you’ve had enough wine and dinner, it’s time to pay the bill. What should you do at this time?
Will she compete with you to pay the bill? Two assumptions, one: she will; two: she won't.
She is rushing to pay the bill. You have to stop her. Don't let the girl spend money on the first date. This is the moral justice of the world. But you can't spend your money in vain. You have to get something back in exchange. You can say: "I'll pay for it this time, and you'll pay for it next time." This will not only make her pay, but also make your efforts worthwhile.
She is not rushing to pay the bill, you can say: "I'm going to check out, you can pay next time."
I won't mention when the next time will be, but the form must be If yes, you need to let her understand: you are not a fool who only pays stupidly.
2. Mental and physical contact are indispensable
One is communication comfort, and the other is physical contact .
Comfortable communication is the most important part of a relationship. You can understand it as the feeling that she falls in love with you talking to her. There are many ways to start. If you are quick-thinking and speak in a humorous way, you can mix in some harmless jokes.
Remember, brothers with good brains can use this trick, but forget it if you don’t have good brains. Local love words, cold jokes, awkward chats and pornographic jokes will be blacklisted in minutes.
Brothers who have trouble with their brains can use this trick: emotional resonance.
Let’s talk about a knowledge point: emotions can spread. Emotions are much more contagious than you think. You can bring her some optimistic and positive emotions, thoughts, and topics during chat to make her like the feeling of talking to you.
Physical contact occurs after communication comfort. Generally speaking, when your communication comfort is established, dating will become very simple. Most physical contact occurs during dates.
Do you know why many veterans like semi-enclosed places when dating? For example, movie theaters or restaurants with booths. Because these semi-enclosed places can give girls a sense of security while relaxing their vigilance. Create some necessary opportunities for physical contact in these places, such as holding her arm when going up the stairs, helping her smooth her hair while eating, etc.
A girl will go from being a little resistant to being obedient. When she is more obedient, the relationship will be established.
3. Don’t expose the sense of need
When were the good guy cards issued? Just some brothers It felt like the heat was almost there, and I felt like I could make the final sprint. But, ding~ the good guy card.
The final step in attraction is: establishing insecurity.
We often say that security is something we need to do in love. Before falling in love, insecurity is the most important thing.
To put it simply, you can understand it as not to expose your sense of need. To put it more deeply, it means to give the other party a feeling of detachment.
Those who cannot get it will always be in commotion, and those who are favored will rely on them.Have no fear, young man.
You have to be a man who is always by her side but cannot be easily obtained. Not only do you keep wandering back and forth in her life, but you also have to disappear occasionally and let her look for you. Bala, bala, check to see if you are still alive.
WeChat will reply you instantly, yes. But occasionally I pretend not to see it.
You must be there for the date, yes. But sometimes I pretend to be unable to go because of something.
It’s okay to respond to requests. But I sometimes refuse.
If she thinks she is determined to have you, then she should carefully consider and observe whether you and her are compatible.
If she always worries about gains and losses, then she has no time to think about whether it is suitable or not. All she can think about in her little head is: "Does he like me? Does he want to be with me?" Do you love me?"
We all have to be good people, abide by the laws and work hard. After all, this is the prerequisite for being a human being. But when facing feelings, don't be too stubborn. Love is like the workplace. If you don't know how to flirt, you can only act like a cow or a horse. It's the same in love. If you don't dare to be a bad guy, you can only be dealt a good guy card.
As a man, you have to understand that a man stands upright. Relationships can be everything to you, but you can't put all your energy into them, so as to avoid getting the good guy card from girls.
