Compared to being given a good guy card by a girl, being used as a backup by a girl is actually the most unacceptable thing. When a girl gives you the good guy card, you at least know that you are out of luck and can let go. But if a girl treats you as a backup, you may foolishly think that you still have a chance, and you are still trying your best to pursue the girl, but naturally there will be no results. So if you find that you are being used as a backup by a girl, how should you fight back? Today I will mainly talk about this issue for you.
How to fight back if a girl uses you as a backup?
If a girl uses you as a backup, what is she most afraid of? It's not your anger and complaint. Even if you are angry with her and complain to her, it is a sign that you care about her. She is not even afraid that you will be alert. She knows that it is difficult for you to give up something that is only a tiny bit away from getting it. What she is really afraid of is that you are out of her control!
She is afraid that someone will suddenly pursue you, or that you will have an escape route other than her. She is afraid that you will become better. She knows that once a licking dog becomes good, sooner or later, your IQ will occupy the high ground again. She is afraid that you will have more leverage to negotiate with her, that she will no longer be your only one, and that you will not be able to control your thoughts.
A girl who treats you as a spare tire cannot face the success of her pursuer, and she will do everything possible to destroy it. For example, when you are working hard on your career, building a good relationship with your boss, wooing customers, and concentrating on research, you will make a series of calls to make the little girl want you to accompany her. For example, when you share your joy with her when you achieve something, she accuses you of only focusing on money and not her, and you are not as sincere and attentive as before.
As soon as you start to become good, she will find trouble and create all kinds of quarrels. The more guilty you feel, the more restless, and the more exhausted you are physically and mentally, and the more you circle around her to please her, the more at ease she will feel.
In a word, a girl who treats you as a spare tire cannot see her suitor being better than herself. She can get better, but you must remain the same.
Therefore, the best way to fight back when a girl is used as a backup is to improve yourself. The more chips you have, the less likely she will be. I dare to despise you. You have improved, your mind will be clearer, and you will be able to see through girls' backup routines more easily. As you improve, your sexual charm will also increase. More good girls will flock to you, and the bait she spreads will no longer be able to tempt you. You have improved, and your chips will naturally be rich. Then she will no longer be the backup for you, but you will be holding her back.
Sima Yi once said, "If you can recognize it, you can break it." She uses the method of loss aversion to protect you. It would be better if you don't have loss aversion. You can hide when she slaps you, and you don’t need to eat the sweet dates when she feeds you. She is just too confident in her backup skills. The more you follow her, the more confused she becomes.
In fact, if you don’t want to be spared by a girl, it’s very simple, just don’t follow the routine. She said "We are not suitable to be together", you said "Yes"", see if she panics. When she says "It's all your fault", you ask "Is this really true?" and see if she dodges. Girls who can use you as a spare tire are those who are afraid of others. If you find a capable person, you will be stunned in seconds.
