In addition to certain skills in chasing girls, mentality is equally important. If you always have the mentality to impress a girl when you are chasing her, and keep spending time and money to please her, in the end it will become a trap and a spare tire. So what kind of mentality should you maintain when chasing girls?
Below, the editor gives you 3 tips on how to build a mentality when chasing girls:
1. Diversion of attention
Most of the time you will feel sad or disappointed because you pay too much attention to her, 24 hours a day. , you may be thinking about her for 18 hours.
If you have the time, you can try some interest classes, such as exercising, learning to draw, sing, dance, and rap.
Or take a casual trip~
Of course, playing games and watching TV shows are also ways, but the first ones will not only divert your attention, but also make you enter a new world. Social circle!
When you try enough things, you will find that the world is really big and love is really small.
He is obviously a spirited young man, why should he live to be the last person in foreign trade?
If you are willing to run, go for a run. If you are willing to travel to relax, go travel. If you can talk to your friends, talk to your friends. If you can talk to your family, talk to your family.
If you really can’t get over the hurdle in your heart and feel that your negative emotions are getting more and more, you can come to me.
In short, do whatever makes you feel comfortable.
2. Establish new social relationships
Compared to the short and fast social life of nightclub disco, I think the Bookstore Exhibition Hall might be safer.
Who doesn’t like a spiritual young man with a rich inner world? A boy who is willing to spend time in bookstores must have online content.
Nowadays, bookstores are becoming more and more social. Ordering a cup of coffee and picking up a book creates an excellent chat atmosphere for you and her to meet for the first time.
Of course, when you meet a girl you want to get to know in a bookstore, you have to interact with her from a spiritual level. You can use the book you are reading as an entry point for chatting, which will appear natural and appropriate.
Of course, you can also talk to girls about dramas and movies, after all, young and artistic young women like to pursue these.
In this way, you will have more and more chat topics. Adding WeChat and so on are all basic operations.
There are many similar social methods that you can try, such as board games, mountain climbing, traveling, etc. It is best to combine it with personal interests, so that it is more natural and appropriate. If not, choose one that you are better at.
Why encourage everyone to go out more to socialize and recognize each other moreHow about meeting girls?
Of course, boys are not asked to cast a wide net here. I remember a writer once said that I was completely amazed at the beginning because I saw so little in the world.
Only when you get to know more girls, you may realize that the one you are pursuing all the time is not as stunning as you imagined.
You don’t really like her, you just like to pursue her.
At the same time, being more social means the greater the chance of meeting the person you are destined to be.
3. Self-improvement
It is said that falling in love with someone will humble you to the dust!
I often forget that whether it is playing games or chasing girls, all success comes from a dream and unfounded self-confidence.
If you want to pursue her, you must believe that you are worthy of her.
You are not asking her to give you a chance, but you are giving her a chance.
The men and women you think of are actually just like you, they are ordinary people who also have to eat, sleep, and go to work to make money.
Since she is just an ordinary person, then why are you so nervous? Why do you feel so inferior in front of her?
If you come up, treat her as a god and then be obedient. , be careful, you have to think about it when you say hello. If you spend a long time torn between hello, hello, morning, and are you there, how can you talk on this day...
Without confidence, even if you No matter how many things he gave her, how many meals he gave her, they were all short-lived in the end.
It’s better to spend more time improving yourself.
It can be to practice various hard skills, such as learning about swimming and fitness, or to learn techniques such as photo retouching, video editing and programming, etc., to make more money.
It can also be a soft skill for interacting with the opposite sex, so that when you meet someone you like, you will know how to understand the other person's likes and how to judge whether the two people are suitable.
The purpose of learning all this is to give yourself a sense of confidence! Giving yourself objective reasons to believe in your own charm is actually a process of self-awakening.
When you are good enough, you will find that a truly good relationship does not require you to work hard at all.
Compared with you always chasing her, you will only like each other, two people will get closer naturally, two people care about each other, and two people will pay for each other together.
With such a person, you will become better and better, and your life will be more comfortable every day.
