When chasing a girl, you obviously feel that you have entered the ambiguous stage. You want to confirm the relationship with the other party, but the other party refuses with various reasons. In this case, it is necessary to find out whether the girl is hanging on you and playing with you. You are the spare tire. So what are the characteristics of a girl who hangs out with you?
1. Chat a second time Find her before she replies to you
"When you chat with her, she doesn't reply to you. She has to wait until you find her for the second time before she replies to you. Moreover, the content and emotion of her reply are cold. ."
For example, you asked "What are you doing?" and she didn't reply. At 10 o'clock in the evening, you asked her "Are you busy?", and she replied disdainfully, "Is there something wrong?". This means that it’s not that she can’t hear from you, it’s not that she’s busy, it’s just that she doesn’t want to talk to you at all.
In this case, you’d better not look for her for half a month. Instead, you should spend time and energy to improve your charm, change yourself, and improve your original “low-value” image first. Then I considered looking for her.
2. The response to the chat is lukewarm, you always start the topic
"The content of your chat with her Here, you account for 80% of what you say, and you are the one taking the initiative to start the topic, and she will not start the topic."
We all know that chatting is between two people, but if it is just you who keeps talking. , keeps opening the topic, but if she doesn't open the topic at all and is just perfunctory, don't continue to pursue it, because it means that she doesn't want to share any value about herself with you. Generally speaking, even introverted girls who are a little bit interested in boys will share more or less about their lives and experiences, and they will also pick up the baton of topics to talk about, so, do you understand?
3. We have been chatting for a long time, but we have never been able to make a date
"You have been chatting with her for a long time, although The conversation is good, but when you ask her out, she always refuses for various reasons. "
This is a relatively special situation. Generally speaking, when this happens, the first thing to say is "the girl is interested in you. ", so you can have a good conversation, but you can't make an appointment, it may mean two things:
1. She doesn't feel safe with you, so she doesn't accept the invitation. If this is the problem, then you only need to It’s ok to further fill in the sense of security and familiarity; if this is the reason, you can continue to pursue it.
2. She purely treats you as a tool to vent her emotions or chat with you when she is happy. And enjoy this delicate relationship with you. This relationship may be a "friend relationship" or a "spare tire", which is not good for you, so if this is the caseIf so, then don’t continue chasing. The correct approach is to take a step back first, create a sense of crisis for her, and keep your own sense of mystery. If she comes to you, don't be so proactive. In this way, first adjust the relationship, from the original relationship that is not good for you to a correct "love pursuit" relationship, and make girls realize that "you are a good partner, not a good venting tool", then If you continue to chase at this time, the relationship will progress.
Of course, there are other manifestations, and you may also consider not pursuing them so actively for the time being. For example, she is always trying to deal with you during the chat, so don't be so proactive in her behavior.
However, there is a misunderstanding here, that is, many boys will mistakenly think that a girl’s reserve is to deal with you.
A typical example:
You: "What are you doing?"
Female: "Watching TV series"
You : "Watch any good TV series?"
Girl: "Just watch it"
You: "You are so perfunctory with me!" (I don't understand girls)
When many boys face this situation, they will think that the girl is perfunctory, but this is not necessarily the case. Because you should also note that this kind of chat will make girls less interested and boring in itself, so girls will feel a little perfunctory, which is normal. So you also need to see if there is any problem with your chat, so girls are a little perfunctory.
On the contrary, let’s go back to this example. If you talk correctly, girls will not be perfunctory:
You: “What are you doing?”
Female : "Watch TV series"
You: "Watch any good TV series"
Girl: "Just watch it"
At this time, let's change the approach. Said: "I guess you must be because you are bored" (understand what the girl means, the girl said to just take a look, but it is actually because she is bored)
At this time the girl must say: "Yeah" (guess it right) )
Then we can reply: "Tell you, there is a newly opened milk tea shop nearby. It is said to be very good + photos." (We know from the previous chat that girls like to drink milk tea, Continuing to talk from this content will arouse girls' curiosity, and girls will naturally become interested)
When girls are bored and see something they are interested in, they will get emotional and say: "Wow, this environment is really good, where is it?" , do you have an address?” (Girls are interested, naturally they are not perfunctory)
See? The same topic starts, but learn to stand in the other person’s perspective, adjust your own mentality, and add in the other person’s perspective. If you want to talk about your hobbies and needs, a girl may not necessarily deal with you, or her original intention is not to deal with you deliberately, but because of her own chat words.The content of the question makes the other party not interested.
It is not terrible to chase a girl and be rejected. At least it proves that the other girl is a good girl and will not hang you up. You can also use this to start a new relationship. The scariest thing is meeting a scumbag who obviously doesn't like you, but keeps playing with you because there is something in you that she can use. Therefore, all boys must learn to judge.
