Two people quarreled over some trivial matters, which could have been easily resolved. However, some irrational words may cause a chain reaction and turn the quarrel into a cold war. What should two people do after a quarrel and a cold war?
1. Bowing your head is also a kind of love.
Sometimes bowing your head is not necessarily the wrong side. As the saying goes, if you cultivate for a hundred years, you can cross the same boat, and if you cultivate for a thousand years, you can sleep on the same pillow. If you want this relationship to continue, someone has to bow first. And from a psychological point of view, as a man, the decision you make proactively is much better than the choice you passively accept. The other party will often show generosity and room for maneuver because of your bowing your head first, so that the cold war between husband and wife can be resolved as soon as possible.
2. Use silence to stop the situation
When the cold war breaks out, you can also adopt the strategy of using softness to overcome hardness and using silence to stop, such as:
Silently clean up home, but don’t say a word;
When eating, you can cook an extra dish that he likes;
When the other person goes out, naturally hand him his coat and computer;< /p>
When the other person comes home, he will naturally take the things in his hands;
Or he will silently go to the kitchen to cook a bowl of noodles, make a cup of tea and put it on the table, but he will not Say this is for him, but the other person will naturally know that you are caring about him. Are you thirsty or hungry?
After creating this kind of atmosphere, the cold war will naturally end silently. , the secret of this technique is to brake with stillness.
During the whole process, you must have a calm mind and do not deliberately make the pots and pans make a lot of noise. I believe his heart will easily be melted by your tenderness.
Sometimes, "strategic silence" is a very useful weapon.
Of course, after the end of the Cold War, it is still recommended that the two sides communicate well to avoid similar things happening again.
But the best time for this communication is one day later or within seven days. Because no matter what the reason for the quarrel is, the emotions in the first hour after the quarrel will not dissipate, not to mention that the Cold War has just ended. Communicating at this time will only make both parties angrier. Although, Because if there is no new trigger one hour after you take the initiative to end the cold war, it will slowly calm down, but just because it is calm at this time does not mean that your negative energy has dissipated.
After three hours, the emotion will slowly dissipate, and it will gradually decrease every hour. At this time, the person's psychological defense mechanism is still in working condition, which means that you will not See your own problem. Your self, I am still protecting your self, and will only feel bad about the other person until 24 hours later, or after sleep.After that, the defense mechanism in your heart gradually shuts down and you start to look at yourself, so now you understand why you regret it the next day every time you break up.
Many people only want to make amends and save their love after they have emotional problems. However, at this time, they often act very anxious, all because of guilt and apology. If they act If the relationship is too intense, you will make a lot of wrong moves. Therefore, after breaking up, don’t rush to recover. At this time, you should reflect on yourself and see why you broke up and where the problem of the breakup lies. After these most fundamental problems are solved, it is not too late to make amends. If you don’t figure out the problem, the same problems will still occur after getting back together. Moreover, there is a reason why the other half breaks up. It is not her own fault. You are At this time, you also need to change yourself, so that your partner can come back to you.
Boys must not be too controlling, give her appropriate space to develop, and give yourself a chance to relax. This kind of love To keep it fresh at all times. These are common mistakes that most boys make in love. Many loves that instinctively continue end because of boys' emotional sensibility. Men should be free and masculine. Love is a book. During reading, you will encounter many problems of different sizes. As long as we find the root of the problems and solve them one by one, we can definitely restore a gradually lost love. Recovery is like a box of chocolates, you never know what flavor you will get next, but as long as you persist, maybe there will be a bright future at the next intersection.
