"Start with appearance, focus on talent, and be loyal to character" can be said to be a very true interpretation of the criteria for girls to choose boys. And those men who are inherently attractive often have three characteristics:
1. Visual value< /h2>
In layman’s terms, visual value is the most intuitive feeling. Specifically, it can be divided into two aspects: online and offline.
Online value can be intuitively reflected through your avatar, your circle of friends, and your dynamics;
And offline value refers more to you and girls The feeling it brings to her when meeting face to face.
Although different girls like boys with different physical characteristics, if you want her to like you, you must first make her like "the feeling of being with you."
It is said that girls "look at face", but how can girls "look at face" as much as us boys?
The world is much kinder to boys and girls who are both "not very outstanding in appearance".
The reason why we have the illusion that "girls are very good at looking good" is because boys are generally unwilling to clean themselves up.
You know, there is no need for a boy to have a "lovable" appearance. No girl will hate him if he can be at least tidy.
To be honest, there are so many good-looking ladies on the Internet now. I’m not sure if you still like her after she takes off her makeup;
And for an ordinary boy, even if he just has a haircut, He is so tall, and his whole body will suddenly become more energetic.
2. Behavioral value
If visual value determines a girl’s first impression of you, let She "starts with appearance", then behavioral value is the criterion for a girl to decide to further associate with you.
So what is behavioral value? You can simply understand it as "what value your behavior creates", that is, your "talent".
It can be talent or ability.
For example, if a girl likes to listen to Jay Chou's songs, and you can sing, and you can sing well, the value of your behavior when pursuing her is very high. Pair it with a guitar, piano or something, and the appeal will be maximum.
Similar to the previous example of listening to songs, you need to find out from the girls’ hobbies.
However, there are some general traits that are very attractive to girls. You can start cultivating them from now on:
Social intuition, sense of humor, self-confidence, challenging...
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There is a visual value that makes her comfortable to get along with, andA behavioral value that interests her, and she will gradually see more of your strengths because of these.
Making her fall in love with you is as simple as that.
3. Social value
If you have the first two types of values, it is enough for girls to be with you. If you go together, then the social value that only a few people have can actually make girls chase you.
In order to make it easier for friends to understand, here I will give an example of a date for dinner.
When you and the girl arrive at the restaurant, the service staff greets you enthusiastically, and the manager personally comes to serve you food, as if you are a regular visitor to his restaurant.
This is a type of social value, reflecting your status in your environment. People with certain social value are proven to be "tested" people.
As the saying goes, people are divided into groups. The friends around you and the people you come in contact with will also reflect your social value to a certain extent.
In other words, if your friends like to read and study, you must be a studious person when you are with them;
But if your friends like to go to Internet cafes, go Drinking, then as their friend, you will most likely not be able to escape this.
Based on this, a girl will think that after she is really with you in the future, you will often accompany your friends online and drink. She will instinctively draw a clear line with you and not consider being with you. possibility.
To sum up, the girl you like will want to know you because of your visual value, and will decide whether to continue dating you through your behavioral value.
And social value is more like the icing on the cake. Without the first two types of value as a foundation, you will have no chance to show her your high social value.
