In the relationship between men and women, girls will be more or less wary when faced with the pursuit of boys. Boys are often the ones who take the initiative, and the more proactive they are, the easier it is to make mistakes, but if your If you have a good relationship and a certain understanding, even if you make a mistake, the girl may still tolerate you, so if you want to chase a girl, you must try to avoid making mistakes before she puts down her guard, and try to avoid causing the girl's resentment.
So what are the behaviors of boys that can easily arouse girls’ disgust?
1. Inferiority and negative energy< /p>
When you first come into contact, you will put your position very low. Some brothers will even say, "I feel like I am not worthy of girls." If you yourself feel unworthy, how can girls think highly of you? More Don't say I have feelings for you... There are some brothers who always look sad and anxious like ants on a hot pot when encountering any problem, complaining about their background and destiny... What women want to find is a man, to rely on, and It’s not to become a Bodhisattva and save you from the sea of ??suffering.
2. Eagerness for success
Lack of basic preparation and transition, and no gradual exploration to upgrade the relationship. For example, the two people asked to "send a selfie to see before they became familiar with each other" "For example, for example, after we had just arranged to have a meal together, we confessed our feelings out of nowhere while taking a walk after the meal, leaving the other party at a loss. From another perspective, the cross-stage upgraded relationship is like a girl asking you to hand over your salary card to her when she first met you. Would you be willing?
During the interaction with the girl, whether it is chatting or Physical interaction is all about gradually increasing the level of testing. You must not be hasty and prepare the ground so that the woman is mentally prepared before making a breakthrough. For example, how do you test holding hands? You take the initiative to get close to the girl's body and gently touch her arm with your arm. If the girl shows no signs of deliberately moving away from you after touching her for more than 6 times, it means that she acquiesces to your getting close to her, so do it well. Prepare to be held by your hand!
3. Mindless giving, asking for reward
If a girl rejects your attentiveness, you cry, don’t give up, and continue to pester; a girl accepts your invitation , you try to ask for something in return; the girl turns a deaf ear to you, and you start to slander her; these are not the qualities that a mature man should have.
Of course, I am not saying that you should stop being nice to girls, but when you are nice to a girl, you must have a good attitude. Just being nice to her, such as drinking with her, just because you want her to try a certain wine; taking her on a trip, just because you want to go to more places with her; giving her a gift, just because you think it matches her well. This kind of mentality will create a very comfortable feeling for girls. If you are very concerned about gains and losses, you cannot give girls the feeling they want, and you just want to ask girls to give you the same amount in return through money and energy. This is very meaningless. The behavior of etiquette, what girls feel, just your sense of neediness and low quality.
Don’t think about just letting a girl come to your doorstep without doing anything, or trying to get a girl over two meals. If the girl doesn’t want you, just slander her wantonly. This is a scumbag. Of course, don't give unconditionally. This is something only fools do.
Many people spend everything they have to give a girl a cart of pears, but all she wants is an apple. The truth is very simple. Many people will laugh after hearing this and think that the person who gave someone a load of pears is stupid. But if you think about it carefully, isn’t this just talking about yourself? You have never really understood a girl and you don’t know her. What are her needs? I just treat her well from my own perspective. This is very similar to what your parents and teachers said to you: I am all for your own good. If you still remember that you were If you dislike this sentence, then you should know how much girls dislike your "incorrect good". Are you giving her what she wants? If you don't understand this, your pursuit will be harmful to her. It would be stress rather than happiness.
So before expressing yourself to a girl, you should first have a deep understanding of the other person’s needs. Respect and gradually understand each other's boundaries, constantly adjust your own boundaries while getting along, and the combination of sincerity and strategy is the "way to love" that makes girls fall in love with you
