When a boy meets the girl he likes, he will definitely attack the girl. However, due to reasons such as emotional intelligence and experience, these boys will inevitably make some mistakes in the process of pursuing girls, which will lead to the failure of this pursuit.
The following editor brings you 4 common mistakes that boys make when chasing girls. Don’t make them.
1. Make yourself an absolute tough guy
Everyone knows that women like masculine men. , so will a man be more attractive if he builds himself into an absolute tough guy?
Let’s assume what an absolute tough guy would look like in front of a girl:
As an absolute tough guy, you will never be sick in front of her, including a cold, then the girl will have no chance to care about your body;
As an absolute tough guy, you have a strong mind If you are like steel, you never know what grievance is, so girls will never have the chance to comfort you.
Love is actually a back-and-forth offensive and defensive battle. It is a process in which you hit me and I hit you. Then, in this mutual "attack", you accumulate goodwill bit by bit, step by step. Fall in love.
And an absolute tough guy is like a flawless walnut, very hard, with no gaps at all, he is simply impeccable!
An impeccable tough guy means that girls can’t even No chance to attack you is gone, she can't do anything to you. So brothers, do you still think that making yourself a tough guy will be more attractive to women?
Faced with an absolute tough guy, girls can only look at the ocean and sigh, saying with emotion: This guy can only stay away. Watch but don't play with it.
Exposing your vulnerability will make her like you more easily!
Giving her a chance is giving yourself a chance. Only when a man properly exposes his vulnerability can he give a girl a chance to attack you.
Especially women’s natural maternal love also brings them a weakness, that is, it is easy to develop feelings for the person they have taken care of.
Therefore, in what the editor has seen, a lot of love happens after drunkenness...
Don’t imagine that a man with an evil smile on his face is drunk and drunk. The picture of the soft girl walking towards the hotel step by step.
The truth is just the opposite. I have witnessed many cases of love that happened when a strong man fell under the influence of alcohol, and the responsibility of taking care of him had to fall on a girl.
As long as the boy doesn’t get drunk and crazy, and doesn’t do anything that makes the girl dislike him, then after this night of getting along and the man showing his weak side to the woman, many such combinations will end up together. Together!
When a girl sees your hard steel shellThe face is actually a layer of softness on the inside, and their motherly nature will overflow instantly, pouring all kinds of emotions with emotional elements into you.
From the moment she develops feelings of love and affection for you, that is the beginning of her falling for you.
2. Feel that two people are in love and launch a fierce attack
Being dedicated to love is a virtue. And staying focused on the object of our pursuit makes it easier for us to use our full strength.
But we are also opposed to hanging from a tree, and we are opposed to pursuing a girl who has no interest in us at all by stalking.
Then the question is, if a girl has a crush on us and we are in love with each other, can we persist in attacking her?
We are pursuing girls. It is mentioned many times in the guide that a girl must have a good impression of us before we can pursue her. If you have a good impression, even giving her an ordinary rose can move her. If you don't have a good impression, even giving her gold and silver mountains will have "ulterior motives".
In this way, some brothers may have an illusion: since I like her and she likes me, then I can show my affection to her unscrupulously. Anyway, she likes me and will definitely be happy to accept this.
That’s really not the case!
Even if two people are in love, the process of pursuit should occasionally take a step back to make progress.
Because attacking desperately may cause some unnatural changes in the mentality of two people.
For example, if a girl is used to a man trying his best to show his kindness to her, and is used to this man paying for her, she will change from passive acceptance at the beginning to actively asking for it.
We must know that many of our bad habits are not natural, and most of them are cultivated through some experiences.
If this continues, as pursuers, we will be proactive in our actions, but we will become more and more passive in our status.
Pausing the attack and taking a step back can produce three benefits -
It can let everyone take a breath, restore the comfort between two people, and save for the subsequent development of the relationship. More energy.
It allows us and the goals we are pursuing to better observe our inner thoughts and determine the authenticity of our inner feelings.
Let girls experience the feeling of losing us and understand how to treat us correctly.
You must know that pursuing girls is an art, an art that dances between people's hearts. Many times we don't actually make any big mistakes, but we overturn in some subtle details.
It was obviously the right thing to do, but because of not paying enough attention to details and then overdoing it, a good thing turned into a bad thing.
3. He is like a dragon among men on the Internet but disappears in real life
Many boys talk endlessly when chatting with girls on the Internet, and their emotional intelligence is off the charts. They seem to be particularly good at pleasing girls. He likes to be funny, but after meeting him in real life, he is arrogant and cold.
One thing to remember is that sincerity and trust are very important when pursuing a girl, and being consistent on the outside is the best sincerity.
A girl’s favorability is based on the image you show her. If the person you show her after a real meeting is not the person in her impression at all, she will be disappointed because the contrast is too great. .
Maybe you like to experience a different version of yourself online than in reality, but this approach can easily lead to overturning when it comes to flirting with girls.
We should maintain consistency online and in real life. That is to say, what kind of personality we have in reality should also be what kind of personality we should maintain on the Internet. Only in this way can we fully bring out the good feelings we have established before when we transfer from online chatting to real life.
4. Try not to contact her best friends
To please a girl friend is a good way to attack her from the side, but best friends are definitely off limits.
Girls’ best friends often give advice on love to each other. They like to express their opinions on their best friends’ boyfriends, and they also like to ask their best friends for their opinions after they fall in love with a boy.
If you make her best friend like you, she will be unhappy and jealous. If you make her best friend dislike you, then her best friend will persuade her not to like you either. Good thing.
Try to avoid contacting the best friends of the girl we are pursuing. The advantage of doing this is that her best friends cannot express opinions on you, and the second is to avoid suspicion and reduce her unnecessary jealousy.
