Boys with high EQ are always able to do well in social and sexual relationships, while boys with low EQ are not only unable to maintain social relationships, but are always rejected when chasing girls. Boys with low EQ should How to chase girls? Here are 5 ways to improve your emotional intelligence.
1. Praise others behind their backs
We all know that we should not speak ill of others behind their backs. If this wall has ears, then let's say something nice.
If the ears across the wall heard it, and heard me praising him, then I would have to think in my heart, well, this brother is a good person.
Even if it doesn’t reach the ears of the person involved, in the girl’s heart, she will think that you are trustworthy, and her favorability will naturally increase.
This is the projection effect in psychology, that is, when you say good things about other people in front of others, that person will naturally project this kind of evaluation on you, thinking that you also have this kind of thing. advantage.
2. Express your feelings frankly
Sometimes expressing your feelings frankly will make people I feel that you are more sincere and trustworthy, and you are casual and comfortable to get along with.
Of course, if it is a girl who makes you feel embarrassed, you can also say it frankly so that the other party can understand you more directly.
For example, a girl said:
"Why has Jay Chou become like this recently? Do married male celebrities really not need to do body management?"
Maybe she just said something casually without understanding the situation, and it made you feel uncomfortable. You can tell her like this:
"I'm sorry, Jay Chou is my idol. You may not know him well. , It’s not that he doesn’t care about his image, he’s like this because he’s physically ill.”
In fact, everyone can understand this, and it is the most basic respect not to discuss his idol in front of others.
In many things, it doesn’t matter if you express your thoughts frankly. As long as you express yourself appropriately, it will make communication between people easier. Isn’t this also a manifestation of high emotional intelligence?
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3. Humor resolves embarrassment
Sometimes it is already embarrassing, and the more careful and reserved the more uncomfortable it is, then let’s adjust it Handle it with a bit of humor.
For example, when you are having dinner with a girl and you see vegetable soup dripping on her clothes, you can say: "It seems that the place I picked today is really good. You can't wait to see the clothes. You Come and have a try.”
It not only resolves the girl’s embarrassment, but also makes the dining atmosphere more relaxed.
Humor is reallyBrothers, we still have to reserve some catalysts to quickly bring the relationship closer between the two.
4. Think of others in everything.
A person with high emotional intelligence must know how to think of others. .
For example:
When chatting with a girl, do not ask too personal questions unless the girl takes the initiative to chat;
When dating a girl, order The restaurant should know in advance where the girl lives and don’t choose a place too far away;
You can send the girl home after a date, but it is best not to ask for it to be sent downstairs unless the girl takes the initiative. .
This will make you look like a gentleman and know how to respect others. It is difficult for such a boy to be disliked.
