Some boys are too impatient when chasing girls. Even though they have just met, the thoughts in their minds have already advanced to the step of having children, and then they rush to confess their feelings and are rejected.
Step 1: Learn more about the opponent
Sun Tzu said in the Art of War that if you know yourself and the enemy, you can fight a hundred battles without danger. Only by understanding the other party can you pursue the other party more accurately.
Girls like to eat spicy food. If you recommend a halal hot pot to others, even if you praise the hot pot so much, it is still in vain.
Girls like to eat McDonald's. If you insist that KFC is better than McDonald's, do you think she will choose McDonald's or you?
Girls like to wear miniskirts, but you say girls should still wear them. Isn’t it a pleasure to find a long skirt that has a certain temperament?
You say you like someone, but it turns out that you don’t know anything about their living habits, interests and hobbies. You just touch your upper and lower lips and open your mouth if you like it?
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So, you have to get to know her, and let her actions speak for her, so that our personality will be more solid, right?
For example, you can look through her circle of friends to see what she usually likes What you do, where you go, how you dress, your eating habits, etc.
If a girl doesn’t like to post on WeChat Moments, we can also chat with her directly:
“I want to go out for a rest this weekend. Do you know where is more fun in Beijing?” "You have such a good figure, do you exercise regularly?" "When I first met you, I felt very gentle. Are you from the south?"
These are all okay in the early stages of acquaintance. Asked, and very malleable. From the other party's answer, we can understand her preferences.
It would be more convenient if you have mutual friends. Getting information directly from your friends will be more comprehensive and detailed, and there will be a steady flow of information.
My friend, two cups of milk tea is enough for bribery. If that doesn’t work, just add a hot pot meal.
Step 2: Show yourself and guide the other person to understand you
(1) Express yourself more. When you are not sure of the other person's intentions, a sudden confession may be a surprise at best, or a shock at worst.
Therefore, boys must find opportunities to express themselves in many aspects and give each other a chance to understand you.
When it comes to letting others know you, you have to leave an entrance for them. For example, open your circle of friends and don’t make it visible for three days.
Also, does your circle of friends give you extra points?
For example, you like sports, are good at cooking, like watching movies,If you like to play basketball and design your home in a stylish way, you can show it appropriately in your circle of friends.
Boys with life and style are very popular among girls.
(2) Give guidance to the other party. There were comments from boys before saying: "What should I do if she doesn't look at my circle of friends at all?"
If she doesn't look at it? Then let's guide her to look at it.
A friend of the editor met a girl on social software, and he told her openly and honestly: "From now on, we will open all our friend circles and give each other an hour. To understand the past. ”
Very straightforward, but very effective.
Or, you can also say this:
"The National Day holiday is coming soon. Have you decided where to go? I went to Tibet last month. Circle, the scenery is so magnificent. I posted the photo in my circle of friends, you can take a look, I really recommend it.”
(Actually, I just want to find a reason to let her see your circle of friends. Now. It’s still far away from the eleventh day)
Step 3: Observe the girls’ reactions
Now the boys. We all know that you can’t confess your feelings regardless of the situation, so when will the heat come?
Look at the girl’s reaction! Feel her feelings for you from her expression, tone and language expression manner.
For example:
You ask a girl out for dinner, and the girl says: "I'm a little tired today, let's go another day." Then a few days later, you ask her out again, and she still finds reasons to refuse, which means she doesn't want to go at all.
On the contrary, if a girl takes the initiative to ask you out when she has time after declining once, it means that she really had something to do last time.
In the process of getting along, if you are the one who is talking all the time, and the other party does not look at you, has no expression, does not agree with what you say, and does not take the initiative to share his own things, if she does not If you feel comfortable, then she really doesn't like you.
If a girl is interested in you, she will be happy when you share interesting stories, look at you when you talk, and she will also take the initiative to share her feelings. It seems that she always has endless things to say.
But there is another kind of girl. The more she faces the person she likes, the more embarrassed she is to look at him directly, but the occasional peek will make her excited, and then she will stroke her hair and bite her lips. Ah, making all kinds of shy little moves. This is also a signal.
Step 4: Grasp the scale and frequency of invitations
After a period of chatting and getting along, slowly After you slowly get to know each other, you can occasionally ask the girl out to play. But be sure to pay attention to the scale and frequency of invitations.
Just like the story of my friend I told at the beginning, the two of them stillWe haven’t confirmed the relationship yet, but we care about this and want to hold hands and feed each other? Isn’t that a bit much?
I also understand how it feels to like someone and want to see them every day, but the relationship is based on When the relationship is not yet strong, frequent invitations may be counterproductive.
For example, you just made an appointment with her two weekends ago, so you can be free to do your own thing this weekend, and then suddenly one day during the working day you say: "I get off work early today, I will pick you up."
This will not occupy her every weekend, retain a certain amount of living space for the other person and yourself, and occasionally create a sense of freshness, making her look forward to your next meeting.
When you are not dating her, you can occasionally share some interesting things about your life with her, so that she can feel involved in your life, and at the same time, she will not feel a sense of distance due to not meeting her.
