It seems very easy for some boys to chase girls. A simple chat and a date can confirm the relationship. However, some boys are very tired when chasing girls. Let alone dating, chatting is often ignored. This also causes such boys to give up the pursuit of girls they like. So what should you do if you are too tired to chase a girl and don’t want to chase her anymore?
In fact, when chasing a girl, boys who feel tired are because of a mental problem and want to If chasing girls is not so tiring, then you need to change the following wrong mentality:
1. Overly aggressive
< p> When some boys see the girl they like, they are like a cheetah seeing food. They don’t care about anything and they chase after her fiercely.He doesn’t even know if girls are interested in him, or what kind of boys they like.
"Sun Tzu's Art of War" said that if you know yourself and the enemy, you can fight a hundred battles without danger.
How did the team lose the chain at this critical moment?
As expected, in the end, either they were given the good guy card, or they were eliminated by OUT before they even started.
Then he started to complain, saying that girls didn’t know how to cherish him, and even felt bitterly that he was being treated like a bitch.
To be fair, it’s really not. Before other girls understand what kind of person you are, you pounce on you impatiently, which scares everyone who sees you.
And the more anxious you are, the sooner your shortcomings and bottom line will be exposed, and then you will be passed away?
Falling in love is a gambling game, and hunters often use The image of prey appears.
So don’t be too anxious to hunt. You should first use the posture of prey to explore the opponent’s details and get to know the girl before attacking. The winning rate will be higher.
2. Care too much about the other person
I had a birthday before and asked my friends to come to my house for dinner. Good guy , who would have expected that a buddy would fall in love with another girl friend at first sight.
Privately, I added people on WeChat, chatted and dated, but didn’t tell me. It was probably because the girl felt that she hadn’t figured out her horoscope yet, so she wanted to see it first before talking about it.
A few days later, the girl came to me to ask about this boy, and we talked a lot.
From the girl’s description, I realized that I didn’t expect that this brother, who usually looked quite boring, could be so proactive when chasing girls.
The girl said that when eating, he could not wait to hand the chopsticks to his hand. He was afraid of falling when he went down the stairs. He thought of everything for others.
As long as a girl says she is hungry, she immediately buys water and food. Anyway, girls do whatever they say, and Zhidong will never dare to hit West.
JustEven when girls post updates on Moments, he doesn't miss every post. When I see someone having trouble, I take the initiative to ask if I can help.
I see that this is developing well, and if nothing unexpected happens, they will become a couple.
I was not happy for a few days after the result. The girl told me that she had talked to the boy but she still felt that they were not suitable for each other.
The reason is that the boy is too "thorough" and makes her feel a little restricted. Even her mother had not taken care of her since she was a child, and suddenly it was difficult to adapt to her.
It is true that girls like to be pampered, but it is also important to handle it appropriately.
Isn’t your every move telling others that you care too much about her? It is indeed easy to put yourself in a passive position.
With such a self-degrading posture, to a large extent, your infatuation will not only fail to win back the other person's feelings, but may also be a waste of effort.
Even if a girl accepts you, she will be easily lost unless you look up to her like this in the future.
So how to change these two wrong mentality in the end?
1. Stay calm, Cater but don’t please
Perhaps if you want the other person to be interested in you at the beginning, you must first cater to the other person’s aesthetic taste.
Of course, the premise is that you are not disgusted with it yourself, and you must have your own position, and you cannot just follow what others say.
At this time, girls will think, hey, he still has his own ideas.
2. Pay more attention to your own feelings
When many boys are chasing a girl, they will focus on the girl. They carry their mobile phones with them at all times, and they will reply to messages instantly. If there is no message, they will reply immediately. Find a topic by yourself and start talking to others.
But you are so positive, have the girls given you any positive feedback?
If they are also very fond of you, then we have nothing to say if you are more positive.
But if the girl refuses in every possible way and you still go to show your loyalty, then I tell you, it will only increase the embarrassment.
If I miss her, I will be open to her. We are not afraid that she will know. If we like her, we just like her.
But when you have work or play with friends, just go about your business. Who hasn’t taken care of their own life?
In short, don’t be deliberately enthusiastic, just follow your own pace.
We like her, but it can’t stop us from being ourselves.
3. Don’t have high expectations, just enjoy it
In fact, when we like someone, we all We hope that the other person will like us as well.
But the facts are often not satisfactory, and it is inevitable to get hurt at this time.
If we can learn not to have high expectations before we get hurt, but simply enjoy the time we spend with each other, we may be able to experience the happiness of liking someone better.
If you can regard liking her as your own business, even if her reaction is not as good as you expected, there is no need to over-guess or feel disappointed. What you need to think about is not how to make her like her. Himself, but enjoy the time spent with her.
In short, no matter what the result is, the important thing is that we ourselves must maintain a stable mentality.
