In fact, security is a common topic. Maybe you won’t feel anything when you first fall in love with a girl who lacks security, and she won’t show it deliberately. After your relationship reaches a certain level, if you face her frequent checks and unreasonable suspicions, even the best-tempered boy will collapse. Let me analyze the reasons why girls lack a sense of security and teach you some tips to give her a sense of security.
1. Lack of security due to family of origin
Some girls lack security due to factors in their family of origin, such as favoring boys over girls, poor family conditions, parents not paying much attention to her, and lack of security in single-parent families. Father's love and mother's love, left-behind children, living under the fence... Due to various reasons, I did not receive enough care and attention. From childhood to adulthood, I was never firmly chosen, nor was I blatantly favored. Therefore, she seems particularly insecure and less confident. She never believes that others will be special to her, and she never dares to expect her life to be particularly outstanding because there is no one behind her.
For girls who lack a sense of security due to their native family, if you want to give her a sense of security, you must let her feel it The warmth of the family, take her to see a happy family life. If your family life is harmonious, you can also take her home to show her parents (provided that your parents support you being together). Only by letting her realize true family happiness will she know that there are problems in her family of origin, and will she be brave enough to take the first step with you.
2. There is no sense of security when feelings are hurt
Some girls are not insecure from the beginning. On the contrary, they were well protected by their family members in the early stage and do not understand real life. Cruel and easily deceived. After experiencing being deceived by people close to her and being hurt by a scumbag, she no longer dared to have feelings, which made her increasingly insecure and without a sense of existence. She will feel that since she is kind to others with all her heart, she may not be able to get the sincerity of others, so she might as well just focus on herself.
It is difficult for you to get into the heart of this kind of girl. Even if she agrees to be with you on the surface, but in her heart In fact, I don’t accept you much. To give her a sense of security, you need to show that you are a person worthy of her trust, do not chat with the opposite sex, report honestly when traveling, take her to meet your friends, and let her know more about you.
3. Lack of money and lack of security
For many real girls, lack of money really makes them feel insecure. After all, in this society, anyone can live without them. Can't live without money. Therefore, this type of girl will appear confident when she has money, but once she has no money, she will act worried about gains and losses, fearing that you will betray her and leave her.
For this kind of girl, you want to give her a sense of security.The best way is not to give her money directly, but to let her enrich and improve herself, and then go out to find a job or work part-time, so that she can experience the process of making money and experience the full happiness. Once she meets her material needs, she will feel more secure when she has money.
