When chasing a girl, it is actually not recommended that you chat with her every day. After all, the topics are limited. If you chat with a girl every day, no matter how many topics you chat with, it will not be enough. So what should be the frequency of chatting with a girl?
Some brothers may want to say: What should I do if I have to chat with her? Indeed, controlling the frequency of chatting is certainly very effective. , but this method belongs to the "defensive" position in the art of war, and is a passive defense method. For some brothers who are very proactive, the passive waiting time is undoubtedly a kind of suffering.
So, if you have certain skills, there is no problem in chatting every day.
Most of the time, boys should be the leaders of the chat, and it is up to the boys to find topics and guide the direction of the chat. Because under normal circumstances, girls are not likely to take the initiative to find topics, especially if you initiate the chat first, girls will put themselves in a passive position mentally, and only you are responsible for guiding and creating topics. Only geniuses can have a good conversation.
But! Treat yourself as a leader. This premise is based on the premise that you can control the situation. Your chat can be based on your topic, and you can easily guide girls to follow. You talk about what you want to talk about. In this way, it is naturally more beneficial for the chat to have you as the leader of the chat.
However, various accidents always happen in reality, and chatting is no exception. For example, girls are not interested in your topic, the topic is not deep enough and you finish the conversation quickly, or the topic is not rigorous and goes off track. These reasons will cause your topic to fail and the chat situation to collapse. At this time, you will feel very weak, confused, and kind of The feeling of not being able to talk anymore. Some of our brothers still stubbornly put themselves in the leading position in this situation. The topic has become useless. They are thinking about how to find a new topic or how to save their own topic, and then they are anxious.
Therefore, never limit yourself to the position of leader! If you feel that the topic is weak, you might as well abandon your topic and give the position of leader to a girl to create topics around her. chat. Boys take the lead in chatting in order to pursue a more favorable situation, not that you have to be the leader. Blindly wanting to dominate the chat by oneself, and insisting on going in one's own direction even if the follow-up is weak, this thinking is undoubtedly over the top.
At this time, you have to change your thinking. In fact, as long as girls don’t use "um", "okay", "this way" and so on If she uses meaningless words to deal with you, then everything she says actually contains topic elements. In order to better transfer your status as the topic leader to a girl, you need to do two things: 1. Listen carefully and analyze the information in her words to find outGood topic. 2. Reverse the topic. Only by asking a just-right question can the topic be better brought to the girl.
For example:
You: “You don’t know that the pound of dates I bought yesterday cost me a day’s worth of food. This year’s fruit is so expensive!”
< p> Her: "I don't know, I don't eat fruit very much."Some brothers felt that they couldn't continue the conversation. They didn't know how to pick up girls, so they had to reply casually, such as: "No way. , you don’t even eat fruit.” “Really, it’s so expensive.” Say this to a girl, and then the girl doesn’t know what to say, and just replies with “um” and “that’s it,” and it’s almost useless at this point in the conversation. Chatted.
The core of your topic is "Fruit is too expensive." Since the girl's response blocks the possibility of extending this topic, you can try to throw her words back - "You don't eat it." Fruit, how can you have such good skin?" The core of the girl's words is "I don't eat fruit." From this, we analyze a new question: What will happen if we don't eat fruit? Then we raise questions and let the girls do it. Leading a new topic: "The secret to good skin without eating fruits", have you ever talked about it before?
Of course, this is just an example. In fact, you said this when chatting with girls The words are much more than just one or two sentences, so the information you can listen to and analyze is very rich, and the questions you can throw back are naturally more abundant. This will not only keep the frequency of chatting between you and girls every day, but also allow you to have an inexhaustible source of topics to talk about and avoid awkward conversations.
