Many boys always feel that they are not good enough, and even if they meet a girl they like, they do not have the confidence to pursue her. They feel that only when they become good will they have a chance to pursue her, and then they dare to pursue her. This is actually a sign of lack of self-confidence. You must know that when you choose to become excellent for someone, you lose from the beginning. The only reason that can make you great is yourself.
Give a very simple example:
When a girl says "You are too fat "You're not good enough", so you went to the gym and lost weight, and finally lost 40 pounds. Girls will still find the next reason "you are not good enough" to reject you.
But when you realize "I want to become good-looking and outstanding" and lose weight for yourself, you will find that even if this girl doesn't like you, you will be able to accept it calmly in the end. You don't have to do it with her.
These are two completely different mentalities. The former is an advanced hidden dog-licker, while the latter is a strong man of self-love and self-discipline.
So have you figured it out?
The person you are most qualified to like is not someone of the opposite sex, but yourself. When you love yourself enough, you will find that "it is easier for you to be valued by the people you like."
This principle applies to both men and women.
There are always ugly men holding beautiful women instead of you; there are always good-for-nothing scumbags holding beautiful women instead of you; There is a lazy man with no ambition holding a beautiful woman instead of you...
Why not you?
It's because you are too cowardly and always think "as long as One day you will be able to become outstanding.” Girls will naturally favor you.
It’s because you set too many self-limitations and always think, “I’m not good enough to be worthy of being liked.” Girls naturally won’t understand what you mean.
It’s because you have the wrong mentality, always thinking “I’ll do my best to give her the best”, but as everyone knows, you like someone but forget to love yourself properly.
For someone like you who has no courage or guts, who gives up after flirting with you, and who is willing to play with a crush, you don’t even have the most basic sense of existence, so why should other girls notice you?
Next, let me talk about some stereotypes about boys:
In the eyes of many boys, they believe that "if you want a girl to like you, you must be handsome, rich, and excellent." Without waiting for the girl to express her position, she found a hundred "reasons why girls don't like me" for herself.
To be honest, girls nowadays don’t care about these things. What really matters to them is “can you give her a sense of love, and at the same time, can you be in a relationship during the relationship?”A process of continuous value-added.
To put it bluntly, girls are a group of creatures that attach great importance to feelings and experiences.
If you become outstanding in obscurity, girls will think that "your excellence has nothing to do with her."
But you can have a sense of presence in the process of dating girls. It is often easier for girls to rely on you if you become outstanding.
What girls care about is not a "big tree", but "they have witnessed the growth of this tree from weak to strong." The process of becoming stronger.
What good girls care about is not money or status, but the boy who can accompany them to grow up!
What you see is "those outstanding "The boy is accompanied by a beautiful woman", but what you don't see is "the two of them also lived in the rental house eating instant noodles and went through hard times together."
Take a step back and say , if you really become excellent and go to find that girl again, can you guarantee that "her love for you will not be mixed with a trace of impurity?"
So boys, be confident and remember these three sentences:
1. Don’t be good for girls, but for yourself.
2. If you want to be qualified to like someone, you must first learn to love yourself well.
3. Love and excellence never conflict. What good girls care about is that they can accompany them. Along the way, he has witnessed your transformation from boy to man.
