For long-distance couples, the easiest thing to encounter is that your girlfriend feels insecure and feels that you don’t love her and don’t care about her. But in fact, many boys are also very aggrieved: Why do girls say I don’t love her no matter what I do? Even though I gave her a lot of gifts, had babies every day, talked to my girlfriend every day, she still felt insecure and said I didn't love her. What should I do if my girlfriend in a long-distance relationship doesn’t feel safe? How to reassure her?
1. What sense of security does a girlfriend in a long-distance relationship want?
If you only treat your girlfriend in a long-distance relationship well, meet her material needs, and keep asking her questions, you will not be able to make her feel safe. A sense of security, and you don’t understand what sense of security is. In the final analysis, security means ensuring that you can have the emotion and state you want now and in the future.
Just like when you buy a fund, you will buy it only if you are optimistic about it and it can bring you profits. Instead of thinking that it is your spiritual support, you have to buy it even if you lose money, and you have to do charity. Even if that fund tells you that it will skyrocket every day, you won't buy it because you don't feel safe. What you see is that the quality of this fund itself is not good, and you definitely think that it is impossible to rise. Even if it does rise later, you think it is just luck. This is a fact.
In other words, if your girlfriend in a long-distance relationship feels that you are insecure, it is not because you are not good enough to her, but because she cannot understand or measure your behavior. When you obey her unconditionally and are afraid of disturbing her, in her eyes, aren't you a person who lacks independent opinions? Since I have no opinion, living with you must be very frustrating.
I will chat and flirt, and I will express my opinions on something, but it is up to you to listen or not, and I will not force it. However, if you don't listen, it won't affect my mood, because I do what I want to do without asking for anything in return.
2. How to give your girlfriend a sense of security
Let me share with you some relationships between male and female friends. This is a way of getting along that effectively provides a sense of security. It is for reference only and should not be copied mechanically.
1. Often kiss her secretly when she is not paying attention.
2. Hold her hand when crossing the street, even during an argument.
3. Listen to her favorite songs and her favorite movies together.
4. When she is tired, give her a squeeze on her shoulders, pinch her feet, and go around her soles to make her happy.
5. Make something she likes to eat with her on the weekend, and then go for a walk afterward.
6. When you need to open the door by hand, hold the door open for her and let her go first.
7. Serve her hot brown sugar water during her special period, and then do your own thing as if nothing happened.
8. Give her a cute nickname that only you will know.
9. The background of your mobile phone and computer must be her photo or a photo of you together.
10. When you go on a business trip or to play, bring her something by the way. It may not be expensive., but prove that you are thinking of her all the time.
11. Share with her when you are in a bad mood.
12. Take pictures of her while she is doing housework and tell her she looks beautiful in an apron.
13. There must be a photo of her in the wallet.
14. When you come back from get off work, you will say: Wife, I’m back.
15. In the middle of the night, he deliberately pulled the quilt towards him to make her closer to him.
16. Leave a little beard and prick her when you kiss her.
17. Help her wipe the cream and jam left on her mouth.
18. Take good care of her in front of her friends and family and let them know that she made the right choice.
19. Hold her behind you when she is in a daze, cooking, mopping the floor or lying on the balcony.
20. Let her fall in love with the game you love, and let her fall in love with the team you love.
21. Take her to amusement parks, movie theaters, libraries, museums, comic exhibitions and small bars.
22. There is a song about our story. I have to sing every time I go to KTV.
23. When she wants to discuss things with you or talk about unhappy things, put down what you are doing and listen carefully.
24. Will praise her in front of your friends and parents. Whether she is there or not.
25. When she ignores me, I will imitate her movements, her voice, her expression, and what she says when she acts coquettishly.
26. Never stare at other women in front of her.
27. Don’t talk about anything about women.
There are many ways to make your girlfriend feel safe. The core is that she is included in your choices, and you have thought about her feelings. Just make sure she is not alone. But it’s no use just having a sense of security, you also have to be attractive and know your own value. Love is about rushing to and giving to each other. What I mentioned above is to give you a reference, so that when you treat her like this, you can guide her to treat you like this.
