1. Calm down
In the moment of an argument, emotions may become emotional and impulsive. However, this is not a good way to solve the problem. Instead, we should try to stay calm and control our emotions. You can help yourself calm down by taking deep breaths, closing your eyes, or walking away from the scene for a while.
2. Listen to each other
Quarrels often arise because both parties have different views and needs. We need to listen to each other's opinions and feelings before we can solve the problem. Really listen without interrupting or trying to argue or accuse. Only when we understand each other's position can we better find solutions to problems.
3. Express your feelings
As important as listening to the other person, we also need to express our feelings. However, pay attention to your tone and manner of expression. Avoid using offensive words or blaming the other person. Instead, use "I" to express your feelings and needs. For example, "I feel sad and disappointed because I feel that you don't respect my opinion." Such expressions are more likely to be accepted by the other party and help establish a good communication atmosphere.
4. Find common ground
Quarrels often arise because both parties have different views and needs. However, when solving problems, we need to find common ground in order to reach consensus. You can find solutions to problems based on facts or goals that are acceptable to both parties. By emphasizing common ground, we can reduce arguments and conflicts and work better together to solve problems.
5. Seek compromise
In a quarrel, both parties may want their opinions to be accepted and adopted. However, in order to preserve relationships and achieve reconciliation, we need to make some compromises. Compromise does not mean giving up one's position, but finding a balance between both parties. By compromising, we can avoid prolonged arguments and hurt and help the relationship grow.
6. Learn to apologize
When we make mistakes or hurt each other during a quarrel, we need to learn to apologize. Apologizing is not only a sign of respect and concern for the other person, but it is also an important step in repairing the relationship. When apologizing, we should sincerely admit our mistakes and express our understanding and guilt towards the other party. At the same time, we should also work hard to correct our mistakes to avoid similar problems from happening again.
7. Seek help from a third party
If the quarrel cannot be effectively resolved, or both parties feel confused and helpless, you can consider seeking help from a third party. This third party can be a relative, friend, family member, or professional counselor. They can provide objective opinions and suggestions and help both parties find ways to resolve issues. By seeking help from a third party, we can better understand each other and find common solutions.
When you quarrel with your girlfriend,Management method is crucial. By calming down, listening to each other, expressing our feelings, finding common ground, seeking compromise, learning to apologize, and seeking help from a third party, we can better solve problems and maintain good relationships.
