Quarrels are a common phenomenon in couples' relationships, and every couple will experience some quarrels. However, some times and stages are more likely to trigger arguments than others. So, when is the most violent time for quarrels? At which stage do couples quarrel more?
1. The initial stage of dating
When two people first start dating, they may not know each other very well, and the other person's habits and personality have not yet been fully exposed. At this stage, they will try to show their best side and ignore the other person's shortcomings. However, as time goes by, they gradually discover some shortcomings of each other, which can easily lead to quarrels.
For example, they may have differences due to poor communication, inconsistent values, or different living habits. These issues may not be obvious in the early stages of a relationship, but over time they will surface and become the trigger for arguments.
2. The stage of spending too much time together
When two people spend too much time together, they will be more likely to discover each other's shortcomings and deficiencies. When they first started dating, they may have only met for a few dates and not spent much time together. But as the relationship deepens, they begin to live together and face everything about each other every day.
At this stage, they may have quarrels over chores in life, division of housework, money issues, etc. For example, they may argue because the other person doesn't do chores on time or spends too much money.
3. Low periods in married life
There are often some low periods in married life, and quarrels between couples will also increase during this stage. When two people get married, they may face some pressures and challenges, such as financial burdens, career development, children's education, etc.
These issues may lead to conflicts and quarrels between the two parties. For example, they may argue over financial matters or conflict over how to educate their children.
4. Emotional fatigue period
Long time together may cause emotional fatigue between lovers. When the relationship between two people enters a stable state, they may feel that life has become boring and monotonous.
At this stage, they may quarrel over each other's incomprehension, lack of romance, or lack of passion. For example, they may complain and be dissatisfied because the other person does not give them enough love and attention.
5. Mid-life crisis period
Mid-life crisis refers to the period when people reach middle age and face multiple pressures and challenges such as physical, career, and family. During this stage, quarrels between couples also increase.
For example, they may suffer from work stress, physical health problems, or family responsibilities.Conflict arises due to heavy responsibilities. These issues may cause both parties to have greater mood swings and easily lead to quarrels.
In general, the most violent periods for quarrels are at the beginning of a relationship and at the lowest point in married life. As for the stage at which couples quarrel more, it is the stage when they first start dating and the stage when they spend too much time together. Each of these periods and stages has its own problems and challenges, which require joint efforts from both sides to resolve.
