When you are in love, there are endless things to say, and after getting married, there are endless arguments. This is a true portrayal of many couples. In fact, it is normal for a couple to quarrel after being together for a long time, and those couples who quarrel often know how to resolve their conflicts after quarreling.
1. Quarrels are inevitable
Everyone envies those who raise eyebrows and treat each other with respect. Husband and wife, two people will not blush or quarrel.
But are there really such couples? Yes, there are very few.
There may be conflicts between friends, relatives, and lovers, let alone people who get along day and night.
No matter how sweet and compatible two people are in this world, there will be times when they disagree.
Yuan Hong and Zhang Xinyi are a model couple in the entertainment industry, but such a loving couple will also quarrel.
One time, Yuan Hong wanted to have a supper late at night, and Zhang Xinyi, who had just given birth to a baby, got up to cook for him.
While cooking, Yuan Hong complained that she had prevented him from losing weight and said that the rice was too oily and watery.
Zhang Xinyi was very unhappy. Yuan Hong took the initiative to admit his mistake when he realized that the situation was wrong.
It is inevitable for couples to quarrel. It is not terrible to quarrel. The most important thing is to learn to tolerate each other.
2. Quarrel can be changed in another way
Quarrel between husband and wife is inevitable, you can try to fight in another way way, might be better.
A few days ago, I saw a video like this:
When a boy saw a girl, he was very angry and said: "You still know what time it is to come back, I'm downstairs. I've been waiting for you for three hours!"
The girl was a little angry after hearing this, but she still held back and said: "The truth is correct, but the format is wrong! Now try it again and add a after each sentence. Baby!"
The boy was confused, but he still did as she said, "You know what time it is when you come back, baby, I've been waiting for you downstairs for three hours, baby."
The boy smiled when he finished speaking. After hearing this, the girl also smiled and said: "Husband, I was wrong. It won't happen like this next time."
The two of them were very happy together again.
When quarreling, change the way and tone, and the originally tense atmosphere will become warmer.
Smart lovers don’t quarrel, but they know how to quarrel. Even if they quarrel, they won’t make the relationship tense.
3. Quarrel between couples is an art
Lin Yutang said:
" Assuming you don’t quarrel in your marriage,The human touch is gone, and how to make noise is an art. ”
A good marriage is not about not quarreling, but about not breaking up no matter how much you quarrel. After the quarrel, you also know how to leave a step for the other party.
1. Don’t settle old scores
Women are good at using emotions to remember. The current emotions and past sadness will continue to overlap, and the more they think about it, the more angry they will become. Therefore, when women quarrel, they like to recount past events.
And. Men are good at remembering things. They only remember things, but they ignore the emotions at the time. When a woman keeps telling him about old accounts, he will want to escape.
So when there is a quarrel, Don't dwell on old scores, focus on current matters, and don't get involved too much. The more you talk, the less the other person will want to talk to you, and they may even stay away from you.
2. Control your emotions and don't mess around when you are angry. Talking
When you are angry, a large amount of adrenaline will be secreted, which will make people particularly excited and easy to say some harsh words, so don’t talk nonsense when you are angry.
Remember, I am. A friend had a quarrel with his girlfriend and it was about to start. He turned around and left the scene. Later, after the two reconciled, his girlfriend asked him why he left and why he didn't explain the matter clearly before leaving.
The friend said: “I was very angry at the time and worried that if I continued like this, I would say something hurtful to you, so I left. ”
Therefore, when quarreling, control your emotions, take the initiative to deflect conflicts, and don’t talk nonsense when you are angry.
3. Don’t bring trouble to others and expand the trouble
< p> When you quarrel, talk about the matter and don't involve too many other people, especially don't involve the family members in a quarrel.Think about it, the two of you are quarreling, and she suddenly mentions it. Your parents even say a lot of bad things, how do you feel, will you get angry, so if you think about it in their shoes, you will understand why you should not mention others.
Don't mention your children. Get involved, form cliques, let the children choose, and use "hurt the child" to punish each other.
Good couples know what not to say when they quarrel, know when to stop, and even talk after the quarrel. You will feel sorry for the other person.
True love is when you can go home and buy food to cook after a fight. True love is when your eyes are raining for you and your heart is for you. Holding an umbrella
