?Quarrels are a common problem in couples' relationships, and how to deal with the quarrels of your girlfriend requires certain skills and wisdom. When facing quarrels, we should think calmly, communicate rationally, and respect each other's feelings. The following will discuss how to deal with quarrels with your girlfriend from several aspects.
1. Listen and understand
When your girlfriend starts to argue, the first thing to do is to listen to her Complaints and dissatisfaction. Don't interrupt her or try to refute her point. Only by truly listening and understanding her feelings can you find a solution to the problem. You can express your concern and understanding through body language, eye contact, etc.
For example, when your girlfriend complains that you don't go shopping with her, you can say: "I understand that you hope that I can go shopping with you, and I will try my best to arrange time to go with you." This expresses your appreciation for her. Understand feelings and respond positively.
2. Control emotions
During a quarrel, it is easy to be swayed by emotions, but this will only aggravate the conflict. Therefore, learn to control your emotions and stay calm and rational. Don't respond to your girlfriend's arguments in a heated tone, and don't attack or accuse her.
For example, when your girlfriend says emotionally: "You never care about me!" you can reply: "I know I don't express myself well sometimes, but I really care about you." This can both calm her emotions and express her true feelings.
3. Find solutions
Arguments often arise when the needs and expectations of both parties are inconsistent. Therefore, during the quarrel, you should actively look for ways to solve the problem. You can discuss it with your girlfriend and work together to find a compromise that meets both of your needs.
For example, when your girlfriend complains that you are too busy at work and have no time to spend with her, you can discuss together how to arrange your time reasonably so that both of you are satisfied.
4. Give space and time
Sometimes, the quarrel may not be resolved immediately, and you need to give each other some space and time to think calmly. You can propose to stop the quarrel temporarily and communicate again after both parties have calmed down.
For example, when an argument gets heated, you can say, "We're both angry right now, and maybe we need some time to calm down before we continue talking." This can prevent further escalation. and create conditions for problem solving.
5. Express love and care
No matter what the reason for the quarrel is, don’t forget to express your love and care for your girlfriend. After the argument is over, you can take the initiative to apologize and express your understanding and support.
For example, after the argument has subsided, you can say, "I'm sorry for making you angry. I really care about you and will pay more attention in the future." This can strengthen trust and affection between each other. .
When dealing with a quarrel with a girlfriend around us, we should listen to and understand her feelings, control our emotions, find solutions, and give each other space and time. At the same time, you should also express your love and care for her. Only through rational communication and mutual respect can a healthy and stable relationship be established.
