Question: My girlfriend has a very strong personality. I have to obey her arrangements in everything, otherwise we will be noisy and noisy. For example, when she goes out to eat, she must decide where to go and when to go. Otherwise, she will be angry. Who wants to live such a life every day? How nice it would be to have peace of mind and live in harmony? I was scared of her quarreling, but my character is not very weak, so the two of us often quarreled, and the father-in-law said the public was justified, and the mother-in-law said the mother-in-law was justified.
Moreover, she is very self-centered. She thinks things are as they are, and she doesn’t listen to other people’s explanations and doesn’t care about the facts. She thinks something should be the way she imagines it to be, and if I do something different than she imagines, she gets furious. From time to time, she would mention breaking up. If I refused, she would keep making trouble until I agreed. She was really too tired to get along with her. Should I continue?
What should I do if my girlfriend is too strong and self-centered?
Answer: In fact, girls with strong personalities, She can also meet people who are very compatible with her. For example, a boy with a weak personality is very compatible with a girl with a strong personality. Some boys with weak personalities like to be with girls with strong personalities, because they don’t have to worry about anything, they can just do their job well, and they are still free. Anyway, if the sky falls, they have girlfriends to support them, and they can take care of everything. A strong girlfriend is also very happy, so whether a girl is strong or weak, it mainly depends on the boy's personality.
But you also said that your personality is not very weak, that is, your personalities are not complementary. When two people are strong, it is easy for neither one to convince the other, and conflicts and quarrels will ensue. , this will cause you to feel tired of being in love and want to give up.
Regarding your situation, I actually don’t agree with trying to break up from the beginning. Just because your girlfriend is strong doesn’t mean she doesn’t love you. In fact, maybe you doted on her in every possible way at first, but then she fell in love with her more and more. But you are hot and cold, and then she becomes strong and unreasonable. Have you ever thought that your girlfriend becoming strong may also be your problem. Therefore, any problem must be analyzed in detail. Maybe your girlfriend is upright, kind, hard-working, down-to-earth, motivated, helpful, respects the elderly and loves the young... No one can be perfect.
If your girlfriend is strong due to her family of origin, or you do not give her a sense of security. This kind of girl becomes gentler the more she is pampered. As long as she doesn't feel loved, she will use strong armor to protect herself.
So you can have a serious communication with your girlfriend and work out a way of getting along that suits each other. As long as she is kind, loyal and sincere to you. Just don't give up easily. But if you really can't get along, breaking up is also a good choice.
