Since I have been doing counseling for so long, I will often be asked about whether I should get a divorce. I think everyone may also often be asked about whether they should get a divorce and whether they should break up. However, many When people face this problem, they all adopt an attitude of advising for peace but not for division.
But in my opinion, I will neither persuade you to leave nor persuade you to make peace.
Why?
Because "Don't persuade others to be good without suffering others' suffering"!
The translated meaning is: not involved in the marriage of these parties Without being able to personally experience the feelings of both parties, naturally it is impossible to express an opinion on the issue of divorce. Sometimes many marriages cannot make you happy just by saying "divorce or stay together".
If we neither persuade you to leave nor reconcile, what constructive suggestions can you give?
Today, the editor only analyzes this issue from the perspective of making yourself happy. , that is to look at your own pain and expectations in this marriage.
First of all, look at the pain. If this marriage brings you all pain, and the pain is so severe that you can’t No matter how much you can bear it, you will naturally let go. In fact, this is the same as when we hold a glass in our hands. We constantly heat water into the glass. When you can't withstand the high temperature, you will naturally let go.
Secondly, look at expectations. Sometimes we divorce not because of pain, but because the marriage does not meet your own expectations. No matter what your expectations are, if you look into the future and you find that this marriage cannot meet your own expectations anyway, and such expectations are what you must meet, then you should naturally let go.
Finally, the editor wants to say that marriage is your own, and only you know whether you are living well or not, but marriage is definitely not the goal, happiness is. Remember it!
