Male and female friends who have the same interests and hobbies can communicate better and enhance their relationship more easily. However, in reality, there are not so many men and women with the same interests. So how to get along better when male and female friends have different interests? What about?
1. Resolve conflicts positively
Men and women who have no common interests and hobbies What might happen to a friend?
For example, you like to play games and she is reading a book. Originally, the two of you were doing their own thing and getting along peacefully. Suddenly, you shouted excitedly: "Holy crap, hurry up and zoom in to control people!"
At this time:
Female: What's the noise? Didn't you see that I was reading a book? Can you please turn down the volume?
Male: Okay, okay, wait for me for a minute.
(3 minutes have passed...)
Female: It only takes one second to adjust the volume, not even one second?!
Male: It’s not me, can’t you just wait until I finish this round?
Then, she threw the book on the sofa and walked out the door without looking back. You are left alone in the room cursing with your pig teammates. When I reacted, I realized that my girlfriend had long since disappeared.
The next few days will not be easy just thinking about it.
This is the norm among many couples. In fact, this matter is not that complicated. The result may be completely different if handled in another way:
Girl: My dear, you will fight in the future. Can I wear headphones while playing the game?
Male: Oh, I’m sorry, did I disturb you just now? I forgot that you were reading a book. Don’t worry, I won’t do it next time.
Female: Uh-huh, what were you arguing with your teammates just now?
Male: Damn, he’s just a rookie teammate who doesn’t know anything. He was playing blindly and was almost beaten to death by him.
Female: Haha, how about we order some milk tea to calm you down?
Male: You little greedy cat, do you want to drink it yourself?
Female: Hehe~
Did you see that for the same thing, irritable emotions and negative handling will lead to things developing in a worse direction. And if both of them can adjust their emotions before communicating, the situation will be very different.
So, what determines the outcome of the matter is not whether two people have common interests, but how to deal with differences when they encounter them.
If two people understand each other and can give in to their differences, they can get along very harmoniously even if they have different hobbies.
On the contrary, if you only focus on venting when something happens, then if you don’t handle the matter well, your relationship will slowly develop cracks.
It’s not scary if you don’t have common interests.The key depends on whether you can communicate harmoniously and tolerate each other.
2. Create common interests
If you feel that two people have no common interests at all, you She wants to play ball but she just wants to watch dramas at home. You want to play games but she wants to drag you shopping. It's too difficult. It's better to have some common interests, which can not only create common topics but also deepen the relationship.
Then create a common hobby.
For example, if you like playing games, then take her to play with you. Many girls around me were not interested in games at first, but under the guidance of their boyfriends, they now play two games one by one, and the family atmosphere is more harmonious.
For another example, if she likes to draw, you can also try it and see if she can't draw well. Is it still bad? What if she likes it?
However, if the other person is really not interested in you, then you have to understand and don’t get angry because of it, or even force the other person to study, otherwise this will happen:
< p>Male: This new game is very popular. Let me play it with you.Female: Not interested.
Male: You haven’t played yet, how do you know you won’t be interested?
Female: Oh, I just don’t like playing games.
Male: His partner always plays games with him. It would be great for two people to play together. You should also learn from it.
Girl: I said I’m not interested, so I’m not interested. If you like girls playing with you so much, why don’t you find another girlfriend!
Um~ This is embarrassing, for the sake of the game Compensating my wife is not worth the loss!
Forcing people to have the same hobbies as you will end up hurting both sides, so why bother?
At worst, let's explore new common hobbies, such as the two of us. Learning to swim together and working out together can greatly enhance your relationship.
3. Respect and support each other
If you really can’t like each other’s hobbies, choose respect and support She'll be fine. You can even create a little surprise to make her feel that although you can't talk about the things she likes with her, you care about her and are willing to accompany her. For example:
Female: What are you doing? XXX’s new book is out. I want to buy it after get off work.
Male: OK, what’s the name of the book?
Female: Why are you asking so many questions? You haven’t read the one I asked you to read last time.
Male: Haha, it’s too profound, and it’s suitable for a smart and beautiful little fairy like you.
(A few days later...)
Male: What are you doing? Don't make any arrangements after get off work tomorrow, there's something big going on.
Female: What’s the matter? God is nagging.
Male: Let me tell you quietly, I bought two tickets for XXX’s autograph session, and I will accompany you.
Female: Ah?! Is it true or false?
Male: Of course it is true, are you happy?
Female: Happy, happy, super happy!
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Sometimes, even if you can't accompany her, you can give her enough space and give her full emotional care, which will make her feel that you understand her very well.
Female: What are you doing? XXX’s new book is out. I want to buy it after get off work.
Male: I’ll go with you but you think I don’t know anything. Why don’t you ask Xiaomei, aren’t you both fans of his books? You two can go shopping after that.
Male: If you want to go home, tell me in advance and I will pick you up.
Female: Okay.
