After discovering that their wives have cheated, many men do not want to end the marriage, but many practical problems do not allow them to end the marriage casually. For example, the harm caused by divorce to children and the elderly, I can't let go of my wife, and my wife sincerely regrets... And it is an established fact that my wife has cheated on me. It is impossible to completely forget it or pretend not to know about it. So how do you continue your marriage after discovering that your wife has cheated?
1. Accept the reality of wife cheating
Many men deceive themselves after their wives cheat. It is wrong for men to accept the reality. Some things happen when they happen, and you have to accept it. The reality of my wife cheating on me. If your wife cheats on you, she is willing to do it because she doesn’t love you. Even if you have children, maybe what you can’t let go of may not necessarily be your firm love for the other person. It may also be the sacrifice you have made for her over the past few years. You are not willing to pay so much. In the end, It's completely understandable that he ended up like this.
You must understand that whether it is marriage or love, the relationship between both parties must be maintained in a constant balancing process. Obviously, your relationship has never been balanced. So accept the reality that the other person does not love you, and you should not continue to put your love on such a person who is not worthy of your love.
2. Take back the initiative in marriage
When the relationship between the husband and wife is not equal, the value It won't be unfair. You may have given too much in your marriage, but in your wife's heart, your value is not high. Now you are just waiting for the other person to choose you, so you tolerate the other person cheating again and again. But in fact, the real approach is for us to take back the initiative, rather than giving the initiative to the other party. How to take back the initiative?
Dare to divorce. In the current situation, you don’t dare to divorce. The other party knows that you don’t want to divorce. Otherwise, you would have divorced long ago. With this, she can completely control you, for the sake of the children. , you are reluctant to let go, you compromise, if you compromise once, and she breaks your bottom line once, there will definitely be a second time. Is there any price for cheating on her? There is no price to pay at all.
Therefore, be prepared for divorce. Even children from single-parent families can grow up healthily if their father is loving and warm.
And you must also let go of your obsessions and calmly accept the fact that the other party does not love you, so that you can dare to divorce. Divorce or not is a choice for you, not that you should have no choice but to accept divorce or not divorce.
3. Maximize interests
If you really consider divorce, then try to maximize interests. One is the custody of the child. You have to fight for it. Otherwise, how can you have correct values ????with a cheating mother. In addition, there isAs for the division of property, because your children will follow you and you need to have financial security in the future, it would be better if you can divide them as much as possible. Finally, although it is embarrassing to tell your wife about your cheating, it is even more embarrassing for your wife, and you are also the victim.
Finally, many men still think about how to continue the marriage after finding out that their wives have cheated. They say it is for the children, but in fact it is not good for the children. Well, growing up in a deformed family will harm the child. Then make your wife happy and see that the man outside won't divorce her because of her. Even if they divorce, they can stay together as long as they are together. You can also find another one, why hang yourself on a tree?
