How to maintain a relationship? This is a question that many friends are struggling with. I saw someone online saying that if you want a long-lasting relationship, you have to find someone who has similar views to you, but I don’t see it that way. Compared with the compatibility of the three views, I think it is easier not to argue about right and wrong. Let me talk about why below.
Those who say that the three views are consistent can go on better, because those who are consistent in the three views are the same. However, everyone has different experiences and different environments, so it is difficult to completely agree on the concept.
When there is conflict, bowing your head appropriately is the beginning of a relationship becoming mature. Reliable people are not met, but cultivated!
Previous question on Zhihu: Why don’t you want to reason with others and argue about right and wrong?
A high like Answer: Because arguing is useless. It does not help solve the problem and hurts the other party's feelings.
Regarding compromise and respect in trivial life, writer Ai Xiaoyang once said that in love, don’t always talk about three views and argue about right and wrong, but you must know how to introspect and be grateful, and understand the relationship between intimacy and intimacy. Right and wrong are important, tolerance is more important than transformation. Because in this world, love at first sight is the most important thing and companionship for a lifetime.
Arguing for the right and wrong, winning the truth, but in exchange for the silence of the other party. Seeking common ground is a pursuit, and shelving differences tests one's wisdom.
When you shine, you will not blow out other people's lamps.
What is more important than the agreement of the three views is that we care about each other and face each other together. In the end, after going through trials and conflicts, the happiest thing is not losing each other.
In the final analysis, all relationships in the world are the relationship between you and yourself. The maturity of a relationship cannot be separated from personal wisdom and cultivation. Only by knowing how to seek common ground while reserving differences and understanding and understanding can the relationship be warmer and longer-lasting.
Your partner talks about love, not arguments. If you argue correctly, you are reasonable, but ruthless, pushing the person you love further and further away.
Sometimes, the relationship between people cannot withstand overestimation, because everyone will consider the problem from their own perspective. In this world, not all sincerity can be valued, nor can All efforts will be rewarded in equal measure. Don’t overestimate relationships, don’t underestimate people’s hearts, and don’t test people’s hearts.
A comfortable relationship, not aggressive, knowing how to give in with a smile, caring about each other’s feelings, I wish everyone happiness~
