When many boys chase a girl, they will find that her attitude towards you is hot and cold. Unconditionally obeying her and giving everything for her, but all you get in exchange is "you are a good person". Why? That's because you have invisibly devalued yourself in many small things, making girls look down on you. Here are 4 things that will make you lose value when chasing girls.
1. Taking yourself too seriously:
Before you guys had a few words, When I was young, I started to care about her personal affairs and asked her to pay attention to her as a boyfriend
In fact, in the eyes of girls, if you are inexplicably nice to her, it will appear that you are being attentive to nothing, and you are not You are very familiar with me, why are you asking for help like this? So you have to keep your identity straight. You are a friend, not her lover. Premature concern will make girls afraid of you
In fact, you only need to greet her casually and express your feelings. The concern and excessive concern of others will only expose your purpose. This is not the emotion that a normal man should express, so girls will stay away from you because of your concern
2. Blindly guessing at girls Inner thoughts
In a situation like this, it is typical that the emperor is not anxious but the eunuch is. The girl just said that her stomach is uncomfortable, and the boy Just all kinds of speculations, "Is the aunt here?" "Did she eat something bad?" You are not her mother, why do you care?
And the girl didn't say anything Because she has a stomachache, it means that she still doesn't like you much and doesn't want you to comfort her, otherwise she will tell you directly that she feels very uncomfortable.
3. The ambiguous stage, but not the relationship between boyfriend and girlfriend
Let us pay attention to this ambiguous stage. In fact, we need to take the lead to attract girls, and expose the bad side to girls, and forcibly promote them to a romantic relationship. When girls say they are uncomfortable or tired, boys start to care and demand all kinds of things, and they cannot play with their mobile phones. Go to bed quickly, I will check in time
Think about it from another angle, if you are going to play games, and suddenly an ugly girl who you don’t like comes to you and says to yourself, you can’t play games anymore. , go to bed quickly, crackling taught you a lesson, how do you feel? And this is under the premise that you don’t have any good feelings for her yet
4. Wrong use of rebuttal
When a girl complains and vents to you, don't laugh at her like she's watching. She actually wants you to say something good about her, like the one above where she dyed Her hair is not good-looking, her subtext is to say"Hurry up and tell me I look good no matter what", but you are taunting her. You don't understand her mind. You don't understand her, how can you be her boyfriend?
Any of the above behaviors will affect it. Your status in a girl's heart makes her directly deny you. Most boys who fall in love are blind and only care about their own thoughts. In fact, when chasing a girl, you should learn to think from her perspective, so that you know what she wants.
