Dog licking refers to those people who do not care about themselves to please others and have no self at all. In the emotional life, there is only one ending for licking the dog, and that is getting nothing. So how to judge whether you are a dog licker?
Five characteristics of dog lickers:
1. Give up yourself to cater to the other person
Desperately catering to the other person’s feelings, vulnerable to attack. If the other person says, "Girls should be thinner and look better," you can skip dinner for a month or two without hesitation, bid farewell to your favorite milk tea and donuts, and exercise every day until you vomit bile. It's just like preparing for the college entrance examination. When you appeared in front of him again with your light body, the other person said lightly, "I like plump ones."
No matter how hard you try, you can never become what he likes. Girl he's not plump enough, he just doesn't like you.
Your giving up and your efforts have not been in vain. You have gained a strong body and strong willpower. Effort should never be to cater, but to make yourself better and stronger.
2. Repeatedly lower the bottom line for the other party
The first time you lower the bottom line for love, the other party may be moved, but If you repeatedly lower your bottom line, the other party will think that you have no principles and self-esteem and can bully you casually. Don't think that you can achieve happiness by compromising, making do, and tolerating. The lower your bottom line is, the lower the results you will get.
3. Unilateral contribution
The mode of getting along with a healthy relationship is that both parties give to each other and respond to each other. When you send more than a dozen WeChat messages a day and hold your phone without waiting for his reply, but see the likes he gives to others in the circle of friends; when you carefully prepare every holiday gift for him, and his response is always When it's a cold thank you, don't you feel that the love is humble and the licking is too tiring?
4. Self-denial
The licking dog loves others because it does not love itself. It only makes sense to get along with others. Find reasons in yourself and rationalize the other person's words and deeds, "You don't like me just because I'm not good enough, she is very good."
5. Giving personality
Giving is the normal life of a licking dog. A healthy relationship is when both parties give to each other and respond to each other. I don't care about licking the dog. The recognition of feelings is giving. Only by giving my heart and lungs can I prove my love.
