I have discovered a social phenomenon. For most men and women, boys take the initiative to chase girls, rather than girls taking the initiative to chase boys. Then many boys feel unwilling to give in. Is there any way to get girls to actively pursue them? Of course there are ways, but the premise is that you can attract girls.
How to make girls take the initiative to chase you
How to recruit girls? For example, if you see a beautiful woman passing by on the street, or you see a beautiful woman on Douyin, and you like it and then cross it, you will not fall in love with them because you have not paid. At best, it's a good impression.
But you and the girl you are chasing are different. As long as she posts on Moments, you will stare at the picture. It’s been magnified N times, and you’re still thinking, how can I comment to make her notice me? You have been thinking about it for an hour. You have been thinking about it for a whole morning since the beginning of the chat with her. The girl said that I was watching a certain drama recently. In order to have a topic to chat with her, you followed her until four in the morning and watched a few After ten episodes, I ended up not feeling energetic at work the next day. You originally wanted to change to a mobile phone, but then you thought about it, you didn't make much money this year, forget it, save it. So, you turned around and spent 6,000 yuan to buy a Girl’s Day gift for the girl. He is stingy about himself but generous to the girls he likes. He moves himself but cannot move others.
So where are you in this process? You have invested time, energy and money, and most importantly, you have invested emotions in everything, so you should understand, right? Do you want a girl to like you? You should do the same to guide girls to invest in you.
In psychology, there is a word called silent cost, which means that the more a person invests in someone or something, the harder it is to lose it. Relationships are inherently a competition, a game. Your own value determines your position in the relationship, and the party with higher value determines the direction of the relationship. If you want the other person to actively invest and pay for you, you must become a valuable person.
So boys, don’t complain about why girls don’t take the initiative to chase you. The premise may be that you haven’t been able to attract them at all. Girls’ capital, then why do other girls come after you? To put it bluntly, you still have to improve yourself. When you are good enough, even if you don't take the initiative, there will still be a steady stream of girls around you chasing you. And if you are not attractive yourself and can only complain about why girls don't take the initiative with you, then you may have no choice but to stay single.
