Blind date relationship consultation:
I am 28 years old this year, because my parents always urge me to get married early. Recently, I met a girl on a blind date. She is 5 years younger than me and is my dad’s colleague. daughter. I have dated this girl on a blind date a total of 3 times now. She has been very busy recently. I haven’t dated her for half a month. I just kept in touch via WeChat and the interaction was pretty good. How does a blind date count as a confirmed relationship? We Is this an ambiguous relationship or a confirmed relationship?
In fact, I have a very good impression of her, and my parents are urging me to discuss marriage with her as soon as possible. I am also a little bit I can’t hold my breath anymore, what should I do?
Reply:
Your question is It seems like, I have no money now and I really want to buy a house. What should I do to buy a house earlier? You must have this kind of mentality, because everything is done step by step. You should think about how to improve your work ability and gain the ability to make money, and then make a plan and implement it slowly.
You can't listen to your parents when chasing girls. Our parents' generation had underdeveloped communication and a small social circle at that time. It was usually introduced to each other by fellow villagers. As long as they were well-matched, relatives could nudge them to get acquainted with each other. Our times are different, and using the methods of our parents will make you cry without tears.
A woman will only be with you because she likes you. After being with you, she will marry you because you give her enough security and feel that you are worthy of being entrusted to her for the rest of her life. You have only reached the ambiguous stage now, and you are just thinking about how to get her to marry you. It is too hasty.
If you get along with her with such a mentality, it will bring huge psychological pressure to her. Because women are very cautious about marriage. How could they marry you just because you are eager to get married? You can even think about it with your toes and know that it is impossible.
If you are too purposeful and express your eagerness to get married at an immature time, she will feel that you are putting pressure on her. If you put pressure on her too many times, she will become bored and you will The goodwill created in the beginning will be exhausted. Let alone marry her, it is possible that she will not even be friends.
Since she is already ambiguous, let her get into the rhythm of love first and confirm the relationship. After confirming the relationship, slowly get along and get along, listen and observe more, understand her preferences and ideas, and give her a "careful", "steady" and " considerate" feeling, which is the so-called attentiveness, so that she It will feel safe for you.
Men are afraid of entering the wrong profession, and women are afraid of marrying the wrong man. Blind date is the foundation to ensure the security of the relationship, and it is also the prerequisite for a woman to marry you willingly.
