Question: Recently, a new girl came to the company. She is my type in appearance and personality. I didn’t know she had a boyfriend at first, so I frequently chatted with her, and she also responded to my messages actively. I was still thinking about how to find an opportunity to express my feelings to her. But one time I heard her say that she had a boyfriend, I felt like the sky was falling. What should I do in this situation? Should we continue to chase and poach? Please give me some advice.
What should I do if I like a girl who has a boyfriend?
Answer: In fact, we always do not recommend chasing girls who have boyfriends. Let’s talk about mine. Reason:
First of all, why would you like a girl who has a boyfriend? There are thousands of good girls in the world, but there is always more than one girl around. Why can you only see one of her? Maybe you really didn't know she had a boyfriend at the beginning, so you made a mistake. This is understandable, but since you know she has a boyfriend, you should retreat instead of thinking about poaching.
Secondly, poaching is not a good thing in itself. To put it bluntly, I don’t want anyone to be a person who destroys other people’s feelings. And you said you didn’t catch me, maybe the company’s People will treat you as a joke. If the girl doesn't catch you, you may lose your job. It's not easy to find another job during the epidemic, and your financial pressure will also increase a lot.
Even if you succeed in chasing her, it means that this girl is not devoted to feelings, and girls who can be easily poached by you will sooner or later be snatched away from you by others.
Therefore, no matter what the result is, pursuing a girl who has a boyfriend will be detrimental to you, so don’t ask for trouble.
But if you really like this girl and are unwilling to give up, I suggest you secretly like her first, but Don't lose yourself, have your own life, and don't wait foolishly. In fact, you can work hard to get better, and you can let her be your motivation. In your heart, I hope she is happy, but let's fly separately.
Moreover, maybe the girl breaks up with her boyfriend during this process. At this time, she will see a better you, and if you still like her at this time, you will not be interested in her previous relationship. If you don't care about feelings, then you can try to pursue them. The chance of success is quite high.
