Question:
Not long ago, my friend introduced me to a girl. We chatted pretty well at first (most of the time I was talking and she was listening), and then we made an appointment to meet. There were no problems during the process. The problem is that after we got together for a while, she started to become hot and cold. I had never been in a relationship and didn’t know how to deal with this situation, so I became hot and cold to him, and our relationship became more and more awkward. I would like to ask how to avoid embarrassment when dating a girl?
Answer:
In fact, the most important thing for a man and a woman in a blind date is "smooth communication + timely feedback", because in a blind date, The purpose is actually very strong, everyone is rushing to fall in love. There was no problem with your relationship before. The problem was that when you discovered the problem, you did not try to solve it, but dealt with it coldly.
Maybe you like to talk, but she doesn’t, which makes you think she is hot and cold, but in fact she is just busy and neglecting you. Moreover, at this time, you are very worried and don't give her any positive feedback. She may even think that your hot and cold feelings towards her are because you don't like her, so of course she will become more and more lazy to tell you.
Give an example. If you spend a long time cooking a dish according to the recipe, ask the other person to taste it. He finished eating with an expressionless face and left. How did you feel?
But if she just takes the first bite, she gives a thumbs up and nods repeatedly, eats with joy, finishes three bowls of rice, and doesn’t even have any vegetable soup left on the plate. How do you feel?
Even if you understand that she is hot and cold towards you, you should still show your attitude towards her, instead of letting the other person think that you are not interested in her either. She may be. If you hesitate, your attitude will encourage her to make up her mind and ignore you.
She felt that there was no hope, so she just wanted to stop trying so hard and backed down, which would be of no use to you. So enthusiastic. Because she can't figure out your thoughts, she becomes hot and cold. You are hotter and colder than others, giving her even more wrong signals. She feels that you really don't care about her and are dissatisfied with her. She might also think that it's a good thing that she didn't spend more time and energy on you, because you really can't cover her up. Of course, it's also possible that she fell in love with someone else during this period, and that boy was more enthusiastic than you. Comparing the two, if a girl feels that your attitude towards her is not very good, then she will naturally choose to abandon you first.
And from your description, you probably haven’t known each other for a long time, so the number of times you’ve met shouldn’t be many. In this situation, it’s most taboo to make random guesses about a girl’s thoughts. And if you say that you have never been in love and don’t know how to deal with it, then go to her openly and tell her what’s on your mind. See if there is any misunderstanding between the two people. If there is any misunderstanding, it will be good. If there is no misunderstanding and girls are really not interested in you, then leaving in time can be considered as stopping the loss in time.
