There are many friends in life who don’t know how to reject others, so they can only reluctantly accept them against their own wishes, which brings a lot of trouble to themselves. So today I will discuss with you how to refuse other people's requests. If you are not good at refusing, don't miss it.
1. Why you won’t reject others
1. Afraid of hurting the other person
Especially those who have experienced rejection by others are prone to feel the negative emotions of others after being rejected.
2. Fear that the other person will no longer like you
Thinking that only by pleasing others will you be liked by others, and if you reject others, you will be disliked by others.
3. Unclear sense of boundaries
It is not clear whether something is someone else’s business or one’s own business. For example, one feels that one should be responsible for a friend’s sadness.
4. I don’t know how to reject others
Although I really want to reject others, I don’t know how to say so gracefully.
What I want to say here is that if anyone makes unreasonable requests to you, please boldly refuse!
2. How to refuse
1. Reject directly
You don’t even need to give a reason, just refuse.
Sometimes when you give a reason, you give the other party a "handle" and let the other party use your reason to question and convince you. For example:
Colleague: Please help me with this job.
Xiaomei: But I still have work to do.
Colleague: Just wait until you finish it and do it for me. Don’t worry, just give it to me next week.
2. Refuse without emotion
Don’t feel ashamed: if your submissive expression is captured by others It gives others a reason to continue persuading you.
There is no need to be hostile: if you don’t want to continue to associate with this person, just refuse it openly and directly.
If you can’t do it now, you can practice more in front of the mirror.
3. The reason for rejection is best directed at the other party, rather than at yourself
If your reason is directed at yourself, then the other party can continue to hold on to your reasons. To argue; and if you point to the other party, you can turn your attention and contradictions to the other party. For example:
Colleague: Help me buy a cup of coffee.
Xiaomei: Don’t you have time to buy coffee?
Colleague: Yes, I’m too busy.
Xiaomei: Then go buy it when you are not busy, or you can order takeout..
4. Make a request to the other party that he or she does not want to fulfill
If the other party rejects you, then he or she will feel guilty towards you and will be embarrassed to continue to pester you. .
Roommate: Xiaomei, can you lend me your new clothes to wear on a date?
Xiaomei: No.
Roommate: You don’t have a boyfriend. Lend me some new clothes.
You: So I have no money to buy new clothes, can you lend me 500 yuan?
Look, rejection is not as difficult as we think, so don’t be afraid , face those unreasonable requests, just say NO boldly.
