There is a kind of girl who clearly doesn't like you, but will flirt with you, making you think she likes you and letting you hang around her. We usually call this type of girl a "scumbag". Next, let’s talk about why scumbags like to be ambiguous with others? What are the purposes of a scumbag's affair with someone?
Why do scumbags like to be ambiguous with others
1. Get a lot of love and keep fish
There is a herd mentality in psychology, which is called the herd effect. When boys and girls are dating, if a girl is noticed by many boys, we generally think that this girl must be excellent. If a girl uses her warmth to make most boys pursue her, it will cause her to be very popular, making the boys who pursue her more and more reluctant to let go, and the scumbag will choose the one who meets her own conditions from these boys. Boys, go fish.
2. Verify your own charm
Flirting, this word is too closely combined in a warm relationship. Yes, play hard to get, playing with the heartbeat. Some girls use warm sex as a game between women and men to verify their charm and accumulate experience in interactions between the sexes. For girls who like to play with warm flavors, they know exactly how to seduce boys. For example, just chatting without seeing each other, or just playing tricks without actually doing anything. In short, they just want to have an ambiguous addiction.
3. Reluctant to confirm the relationship and stop moving forward
Scumbags will pretend to be your intimate, hoping to maintain the current ambiguous relationship, but they will never confirm the relationship. Because telling someone off means two outcomes: becoming lovers, or turning back into just good friends, or even passers-by. Many relationships will end abruptly because of confession.
4. The accumulated cost is low, casual, and not easy to be disciplined by the partner.
Make it clear that the relationship represents responsibility and investment, but there is no need for warmth. You can come when the scumbag is ambiguous with you. She can go and go freely, the beginning and end are all decided by her, and she doesn't even need to report anything. A relationship without any control is so freeing.
5. Spend money on friends of the opposite sex and be greedy for petty gains
When friends express good feelings, they just want to take advantage of the other party. For example, asking you to treat her to a meal, asking you to help buy a little lipstick, coaxing you to send her red envelopes and prepare gifts during festivals... A girl who really wants to fall in love with you doesn't want to leave a materialistic impression on you. I won't actively ask you to buy anything.
6. Insecure and worried about getting hurt
The reason why some scumbag girls are scumbags is actually because they have suffered trauma at home, parent-child travel relationships or previous emotional experiences. , I don’t know how to handle close relationships with quality, and if I really like you, I will instinctively keep a distance from you. For them,It’s not that I love ambiguity, I may have become ambiguous with you without knowing it.
