For example, a girl has a conflict with her family members and is in a bad mood. She sends you a WeChat message to seek comfort. You also try your best to comfort the girl, but in the end, you don’t even have a few words to talk. The girl just says forget it, you are It's not that you feel suddenly out of nowhere, but then maybe the girl ignores you for several days, and you feel very troubled. Why? Then you might as well take a look at the following ways of comforting straight men to see if you are doing ineffective comfort.
Methods used by straight men to comfort others
The following methods used by straight men to comfort others are all ineffective, and 90% of boys have used them without knowing it.
1. Comfort without hesitation
Just like a girl said she bought a few kilograms of fruit, and her family members would say, Oh, don’t waste it so much, and she would feel aggrieved. I told you about this matter, and you said without hesitation that I think so too, and I think so, isn’t that because you also think that girls shouldn’t buy fruit? Are you here to comfort girls or to blame girls?
2. Analysis and solution-based comfort
Many boys think that girls’ need to seek comfort is a problem-solving process, so as soon as he came up, he analyzed and answered various questions for the girls, and even recommended some so-called solutions to the girls after the analysis. In fact, girls just want to understand. After you analyze and answer, the girl will feel weird, and she will even feel that you don't understand her at all, and then she doesn't want to talk to you anymore. See if you have the same experience, as if you are sad. When someone is trying to reason with you, do you continue to listen, right?
3. Preaching type of comfort
Many boys preach to girls when they want to be comforted. Common words include, Oh, you shouldn’t quarrel with her, I’ll tell you. I've told you what to do, but you just don't listen. What's there to be angry about? Maybe you really just want to divert the girl's attention, but none of the above words are comforting, but they are blaming the girl for her mistakes, which may have the opposite effect.
4. At least comfort
Many people have used this but did not realize it. The problem lies. For example, at least you still have fruit to eat, it’s no big deal; at least you can go home to celebrate the New Year, I can only celebrate the New Year in the same place; at least you can do whatever you want, this kind of comfort is like saying This is very important for girls. Through analogies, girls can feel that, eh, you are really making a fuss out of a molehill. If you often use this kind of at least comforting method, don't talk about girls, boys may also think you are a bit annoying.
In fact, the above methods of comforting by straight men will cause girls to have the negative effect of overlapping families. If you adopt one of them, then you are no longer a listener to girls, but a listener to girls. If you are a critic, you just push it away and pull it away yourself.It is difficult to continue an opportunity for a close relationship, so I hope everyone can avoid straight men’s comfort methods.
